Ever wondered what men really think and want? Do you feel like male behavior is kind of complicated to understand?
Just like women, men are also guilty of sending mixed signals to the opposite sex and can be difficult to deal with and understand at times.
But men really aren’t that complicated. Once you understand a few things about male behavior, you’ll find men a lot easier to get along with.
So, here is a sneak peek at what we men, really wish you knew…
1. We Also Desire To Be Complimented
You love to hear how beautiful your outfits look on you. You crave to hear how charming and enchanting your smiles, nose, and eyes are.
But the truth is, men also crave these sweet and nice compliments as much as you do.
Even though we may always act as if we don’t care, we want you to notice how the edge of our sleeves perfectly grips our biceps. After all, we’ve worked hard to make the muscle pop like that. And yes, we also want to hear how nice our jeans show off our assets. And many other nice compliments.
Genuine and factual compliments, irrespective of whether they’re voiced or expressed by a lingering stare, satisfies a man’s sense of selectivity as it reminds him of why you keep choosing him over others.
It also makes him more confident and sure of himself. You wouldn’t want to hang out with a man that has confidence issues right?
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2. Don’t Just Compliment Our Looks
One of the best ways to make a man feel real good is to commend him for even the smallest thing that masculinity tends to belittle.
That’s to say, you shouldn’t only compliment him about his looks but also the little things that masculinity tends to belittle. For instance:
If he is a great cook, if he is been a helpful partner, If he has insightful takeaway about a foreign film, just tell him.
To a man, these kinds of compliments can’t be easily forgotten as they make us want to further prove that we’re worth your kind words.
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3. Our Honesty Explains How Much We Care
Being upset and paranoid about a Man’s inability to use tact to deal with embarrassing situations, slowly invites problem between you and him.
You are likely going to have a hard time dealing with men if you always misunderstand and pick offense over our honesty.
That’s why you should understand that our honesty is well-intentioned as it expresses how much we care about you.
For sure, men do lie countless times to people they are not interested in at all. But in your case, we wouldn’t hold back on telling you why your mother bothers us and how you can stop fighting with your high-maintenance friend.
In essence, we can be brutally honest because we believe it’ll help you resolve the problem and we’re also communicating how much we care and think of you.
Besides, we’re thought right from childhood, not to lie to the ones we truly care for.
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4. We Don’t Want To See Our Loved Ones Suffer
Of course, why should we just fold our hands and watch someone we care for, suffer when we can actually help them solve the problem?
We are naturally good at handling difficult situations, unlike Women who are just okay with talking about problems for talking sake knowing that someone listens to them.
That’s why we really and truly want to help you get over even the most difficult situation you’re facing as our heart naturally aches when we see our loved ones suffer.
Therefore, you should let us help you get over your difficulties. Otherwise, tell us up-front that you prefer to be listened to so we will not do anything about the problem, or offer our opinions on how to fix it.
Because that’s the only way we can keep calm and comfort you, instead of offering tons of unsolicited advice.
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5. It Will Be Nice If You Appreciate Our Reliability
A good gentleman will always be committed as he will be there for you no matter what.
And while there are jerks who are experienced in ghosting and orbiting, they’re a ton of reliable men out there.
It’s just a shame that some women tend to be attracted to these jerks. However, the big problem is the more men feel those guys get the most affection and attention, the more incentive we have to become those guys.
So if we aren’t late to a date night. Give us an appreciative smile or send us a text thanking us once we prove you can call at any time.
When a woman appreciates her man’s reliability he will definitely become more reliable and more committed to the relationship.
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6. We Also Need Some Breathing Space
Excessive consumption of drugs can be harmful to health. Besides, too much of everything is no good.
In the same way, excessive clinginess can destroy a relationship. That’s why you should give us some breathing space.
Maybe you love your man so much that you can’t just let him off your side because you simply enjoy and love spending time with him.
But that doesn’t mean a man should be by your side 24/7. Because it will make him unable to express himself the way he enjoys.
Besides, going on a hiking weekend with the boys, taking a few hours to work-out solo, visiting a store you might have zero interest in… doesn’t signify that you’re not loved enough.
Just like women need alone time or girls night with their friends, guys need the companionship of other men or time to themselves. This kind of separation will refresh our minds, give us stories to share, and bring us back to you with more spirit.
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7. You’re Free To Take Control Behind Closed Doors
It’s no secret that men love wild and naughty women. Women that can endlessly quench their desires.
Being in a sexually satisfying relationship is one of the secret prayers of every man unless his unwell.
Therefore, you should unleash yourself. Express your fantasies. Use your hands. Suggest toys. Show us who’s boss and give good directions.
Because your explanations don’t only intensify our intuitions but also heightens our ecstasy knowing that you’re also in the same state. Hence, it’s a win-win situation.
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8. We Are Not Always Emotionally Strong
Society expects men to be tough and able to deal with difficult situations diplomatically by focussing on a solution rather than wasting time feeling emotional.
That’s to say, a man is not expected to go around in circles emotionally (e.g. feels depressed, complains, gets motivated, and then loses motivation, throws his hands up in the air, gets excited, loses interest again, etc) when faced with different situations.
Instead, he should face complex situations with an open-minded perspective by focussing on a solution and moving forward.
But life isn’t always easy and straightforward. There are times we can’t help but feel emotionally weak. Times we really need a shoulder to cry on.
Therefore, whenever your man comes to you in an emotionally vulnerable state, giving him some emotional support should be your number one priority.
Become his best ally and help him defeat that difficult and tough situation. Come on. Dare to be his crying shoulder and he will forever be loyal.
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Final Thoughts
For sure, it’s easy to be left confused time and time again about how men behave.
But understanding male behavior isn’t as difficult as it seems. To understand men better, you need to have a glimpse of how they think, feel, and operate.
So before you reprimand us for being overly complicated, consider the things we men, wish women knew.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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