What If He Cries?

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  1. “What if he cries”? Personally, I’d tell him DON”T! If you feel overwhelmed, then find a private spot(It’s always a good idea to wear sunglasses to funerals). It’s been my experience that when the women in your lives see you cry and come running to “hold him , comfort him’ , what I want is GET AWAY AND LEAVE ME THE F**K ALONE! Besides , the couple you describe as newlyweds, their odds are only about 50/50 that they’ll stay together. So in fact, he might just be giving her ‘emotional ammunition’ to use against him at some later date!

  2. Bobbt

    What is wrong with you?
    “”"”" Besides , the couple you describe as
    newlyweds, their odds are only about 50/50 that they’ll stay together. So in fact, he might just be
    giving her ‘emotional ammunition’ to use against him at some later date!”"”"”
    Want kind of world do you live in where a person can use former episode of crying as emotional ammunition ?
    You need to see a shrink.

    • Kim, I live in the real world, not the ‘Wouldn’t it be nice if…’ world sometimes described in some articles. The ‘emotional ammunition’ episode I described actually happened to 2 different friends of mine!

  3. Tom Brechlin says:

    I wouldn’t discount what either Bobbt or the author suggested. There is no right or wrong way. Everyone is different, everyone deals with death differently. I’d only been married a couple of months when my dad passed away. The news was devastating to both my wife and I. I barely remember the night I got the call from my brother that dad had unexpectedly passed.

    I do remember going out to my folks house the following day and not being sure as to how I was going to react when I got there. I do remember wanting to be alone once I got there. I cried in private while sitting at my dad’s desk in the den. I also remember that along with my brothers, we concerned ourselves with how mom was doing and how she was handling things.

    In any event, I knew my wife was as supportive as she could be in that she was suffering as well. What bothers me is that a wife has to ask how to handle her husband crying. This is a married couple and I would hope that they know each other well enough to be able to support each other without question. Many times in these situations, you’re flying by the seat of your pants. I don’t think there is any one right way of handling this.

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