The New Macho

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About Tom Matlack

Tom Matlack is the co-founder of The Good Men Project. He has a 18-year-old daughter and 16- and 7-year-old sons. His wife, Elena, is the love of his life. Follow him on Twitter @TMatlack.


  1. Ewell Smith says:

    I really like the direction the Onion News Network is taking, keep up the awesome work guys!

  2. Heriberto Vizcarra says:

    Thank God we live in a country with so many different lifestyles, because I haven’t been living in the same society as you portray it in this article and comments.

  3. Tom, thank you for creating a new definition for macho. I believe all men want to fulfill your ideal. We lack the role models and the tools. Your post lays the ground work.

    I watch your Sing Sing video – you had me in tears. Not from pity, but from feeling your and the men you visited greatness. It’s sad as men we have to experience extreme events to touch launch greatness.

    I’ve come to feel that as men we are meant to struggle and over come. Steve Jobs did and so did Julio Medina. Let’s create a world where more men get to be Steve Jobs.

  4. I think Macho is a person who realizes that their own journey to manhood is not complete without mentoring and guiding the emerging generation. When a person accepts responsibility to help others through the challenges of maturation, they themselves discover true manhood. A macho man is nothing more than a man who recognizes his place in the cycle of life and give selflessly.

  5. this message is old news in a new light. for me it helps bring to light things i once forgot. men are only seen as superior because thats the way the media portrays us. the biological role f a male is to protect his mate also protect his offspring. these men you mentioned where doing just that. successful people are the ones who appear to be extremely unsuccessful but still have the integrity to keep pushing even though they fail on a consistent basis. these men include guys like Goeorge Washington. as a general he lead an army that was out gunned and out maned to free a country for a tyrant. the issue with todays man is they were told they were special and different giving them a sense of entitlement. this entitlement has lead to the down fall of the planet. human nature was never to destroy another human but to help that human survive. this is the mentality of macho men they dont want to harm another person. they want to help that person survive and help that person reach there full potential. this brings them joy in a life full of questioning yourself

  6. The difference between brave and reckless, like the difference between nurturing and coddling, is a great question masculine and feminine men and women have to battle with every day.

    Unfortunately the battle between the sexes is still selling well but, more unfortunately, those who have won that battle by not playing it lose sight of the mindset the rest of the world is still stuck in. They get smug, and cynical, and coddling and reckless.

  7. Quinn Hamilton says:

    I wanted to like this article, but the author rubbed me the wrong way very soon into it. To say “think about the most well-known companies founded by female entrepreneurs” and that they “aren’t product innovations…as much as women who have successfully marketed an image of themselves” then essentially go on to dismiss their work as less important is unfair. I understand that, to men, the work of the women you’ve mentioned may not have changed the life of the average man, but the average woman would beg to differ. You said: “These companies [Google, Facebook, Apple] were all founded by men who believed in the power of their own ideas to transform the world in ways that no one else really thought possible.” How many people in the 1950s thought a black woman who grew up poor in rural Mississippi could build a multi-media empire and be worth $2.5 billion? Oprah has a big personality but it was her genius that made her a media mogul and not just talk show host-puppet controlled by her advertisers. And it is her genius and innovation that inspires more women to believe in themselves and their own world-changing ideas.

    I could give more examples but I won’t. I’d recommend you open your eyes to the different, but equally awesome, ways that women’s genius and innovation manifest. I would then encourage you to get hip to the lesser known women innovators in the sectors in which you’re familiar. They exist but they are HIGHLY underrepresented and under-praised for a myriad of reasons. I would also encourage you to support the programs that are helping to increase the numbers of women in areas that we tend to be underrepresented such as the technology sector you so lovingly talk about. There’s a great group called Black Girls Code that could use donations.

  8. I believe in equal pay for equal work and that women and men should be able to make a good living, but If I were a woman I would be sorta proud that so few women are billionaires. Billionaires are basically criminals, no one needs or truly earns that much money. I do think that men more often tend to be risk takers, and that has both goods and bads to it and is a pretty big part of what makes males distinct. I think that guys these days are getting too stuck in their comfort zone in westerm countries with all the internet and yes the porn, all the technology that both makes some things too easy and some things impossible to do on their own. What ordinary guy can fix a car these days


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