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About Tom Matlack

Tom Matlack is the co-founder of The Good Men Project. He has a 18-year-old daughter and 16- and 7-year-old sons. His wife, Elena, is the love of his life. Follow him on Twitter @TMatlack.

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  1. Tom -

    Thanks for the honesty.

    What, if anything, would the current Tom say to the Tom that existed when Seamus was 9 months and Kerry was two?

    Kath

    • Tom Matlack says:

      Kath I would say that guy was pretty scared, sad and misguided. He was running as hard as he possibly could towards the wrong goal, or perhaps from the shadow of fear that didn’t exist. He was living a double life, knowing somewhere deep inside that would never work. He was in a great deal of pain.

      None of that is an excuse for mistakes made and their real consequences.

      • Again, WTG on the honesty!

        So many people – not just men – never own up to why they fail. It’s excuse after excuse after excuse.

        You? You not only know why you failed, but take responsibility for the failure.

        Impressive.

        Thanks for your articulate response :-)

  2. Second time I’ve read this. First of all, thank you for sharing youself like this. My issues were more mental than chemical or liquid. I married an addict and got her clean. That ended in divorce years later. I’ve seen both sides.

    The important thing is what you do AFTER your crap. Looks like you climbed Mt Everest. I admire you.

  3. Yet another inspiring piece, Tom. I can vividly recall the despair I felt when my first wife and I separated, and she wouldn’t let me see my sons out of pure spite. While my life was not in danger, like in your story, I can relate to the mindset of becoming the father your kids deserve. I’m fortunate to have my wife who reminds me how good a father and husband I am, and that motivates me to improve everyday, for her and for our kids. Keep up the great work. Your voice is needed.

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