Divorce Guilt Can Break Your Bank

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About Morghan Leia Richardson

Morghan Leia Richardson is a divorce attorney and mediator in New York City. She is experienced in litigation and family law issues that accompany Divorce, such as Custody, Child Support, Father's Rights and Marital Property issues, including asset discovery and protection. Morghan was graduated from Tulane Law School in New Orleans, during which time she worked as an extern for Federal Magistrate Judge Louis Moore in the United States Court for the Eastern District of Louisiana, and served as a Managing Editor for the Tulane Maritime Law Journal. She is licensed in Maryland, D.C. and New York. Morghan worked for national litigation firms before starting her Queens-based law practice. She juggles her job as an attorney with her other job as single mom of two preschool-aged boys. Her firm is Richardson Legal PLLC and she blogs at The Divorce Artist.

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  1. Huh? As the “other blogger” — I have never advocated for premature divorce for any reason. Not sure where that is coming from.

    I find some of the word choice here offensive:

    “he agreed to pay through the nose.” — Need some context. $500,000 sounds like a lot to most people. If that sum was to have been paid over 10 years and he earned in the high six-figures, it may have been totally reasonable. In that case, few would agree it was “through the nose.”

    Interesting points about leveraging divorce threats to motivate SAHMs to get jobs and better men’s chances for better divorce settlements. These are important issues that few people think about — until of course they face divorce. BUT — what is the point of this article? Encourage men to get over their divorce and fight for reasonable settlements? Or to offer men tips to encourage their wives to get jobs so everyone fares better financially in the event of divorce? I’m confused ….

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  2. Hi Emma!

    The premature demise of marriage is absolutely the net effect of your proposal that marriages expire after a ten year term. Every marriage hits a time when one or both spouses want out. In a healthy marriage, the couple keeps working at it. If that troubled time coincides with your ten year mark, how many marriages would be abandoned that might have otherwise survived and thrived? I’m more than a little surprised that you have not contemplated that result.

    For many personal and professional reasons, I dislike the idea of a term marriage. But, despite our different views on the subject, I think we find common ground in the idea that people need to be living more intentional lives, particularly when it comes to marriage.

    I always welcome your criticism of my writing, as you are a skilled writer and a friend. Your comment reads a little on the defensive side. Divorce is one area of the law where emotion can seriously impact the process and the end result. Men who are primary providers for their family sometimes experience so much guilt that they try to “over provide” in the divorce. The consequences can be drastic. I’m not inclined to re-write my piece in the comments, so I’ll stop there.

    I do think the idea of intentional lives and intentional marriage may be something worth exploring in other future blogs.

  3. I was under the impression that laws were drastically different here in California. Do you have a comment on that, Morghan?

    Thank you for broaching this subject. It’s obvious (to me) that it’s a delicate and sensitive topic.

  4. Thanks Burton! I am not licensed in California, so I really can’t speak to the laws there, but I understand that there are some very good efforts at getting couples to mediate. Mediation is the far superior option in resolving divorce and family disputes because it gives couples a world of creative options to resolve their issues, rather than the more limited court response (that often suits no one).

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