Here’s Your Mom

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About David Davis

Recently retired, Mr. Davis has published works of short fiction, non-fiction, and poetry in various online magazines.

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  1. This very sad story reminds me of the Harry Chapin song where the son unintentionally imitated his father’s inattentiveness and only realized it once his son was an adult.

    Perhaps this is a cultural trend in some families or even ethnic groups more than others. It’s certainly not the case in my family and culture. Thankfully, I never had that experience. I’ve always been close to both of my parents and although I have no sons, I am close to both of my daughters and plan to continue to be close to them throughout their lives.

    • Athough I don’t agree with the implication that this is generalization, I think writing this article has value for parents who are still raising their children, boys or girls.

      Also, the Harry Chapin song is called “Cat’s in the Cradle.” Here are the last few lines of lyrics (written from the father’s perspective):

      “I’ve long since retired, my son’s moved away
      I called him up just the other day……..
      I said “I’d like to see you if you don’t mind”
      He said “I’d love to Dad, if I could find the time.
      You see my new jobs a hassle, and the kids have the flu.
      But It’s sure nice talking to you, Dad,
      It’s been sure nice talking to you……..”
      And as I hung up the phone it occurred to me
      He’d grown up just like me,
      My boy was just like me…………..

  2. That sounds unimaginably sad and depressing.

    But you say “Men will understand.” I’m a man and extremely thankful that I do not understand what you’re talking about. At all. My dad is one of my best friends and I can always talk to him about anything. Granted, his relationship with his father was like the one you described with yours, but my dad made sure that didn’t continue.

    I’m planning to do the same with my son.

  3. I know exactly what you are talking about, although I’m a daughter. My dad had no idea how to interact with me and my sisters. Still doesn’t. Our relationship has improved slowly over the years to the point that we can exchange a few sentences before he puts mom on the phone. Very sad.

  4. The thing that’s hopeful about this article is that it seems both men still want to connect, even if they find it hard. Maybe the old-fashioned way, by snail-mail, might work. Sometimes it’s easier to write than talk.

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