The Purpose of Life Is a Life of Purpose

Do I always want to become a writer/author?

Both yes and no are the answers. I have been journaling, writing poems, and writing essays for years. I wanted to become a writer during my teenage years but became a teacher instead.

Trust me, it was the best decision my dad made. After becoming a teacher, my ideologies changed. Since I have a secure and respectable government job, why should I try to become anything else? A reasonable sum of money arrives to cover obligations and prepare for the future.

However, life has other plans.

As I grew older, I began to search for my life’s mission, which is more than teaching. I am fortunate to have this honorable career since I enjoy teaching. Going to school and interacting with my students always excites me.

But still, something was missing. I wasn’t complete within myself. Life has brought significant life changes before and after marriage. Setbacks and heartbreaks have become an essential part of life.

There were situations when I couldn’t even handle myself. Life has turned upside down. Being overly emotional and sensitive has become the root cause of my suffering. I was regularly receiving alarms from the universe. I take three steps back when I take two steps ahead. The patterns were repeating because I wasn’t learning from them.

Even my friends were tired of me listening to the same issues over and over again. I was completely stuck. I had become like a fussy aunt whose condition was not improving.

I wasn’t able to let go of my past and move forward. Guilt, remorse, and procrastination were part of my daily routine. I can’t even think straight for my daughter, whose responsibility lies on me — I just wondered what kind of mother I am becoming, unable to provide my daughter with a stable future since I was constantly terrified.

One day, following a significant heartbreak and feeling rejected by life, I altered my perspective. I was frequently called an emotional fool, immature, and heartless.

I picked up reading again in an attempt to shift my perspective. Before getting married, I was an avid reader who kept a book on my bedside table and in my luggage. One book is ready on a shelf before the other one is finished.

Self-help books have always been my genre. When I was a teenager, I devoured Robin Sharma’s books. My preferred method of reading books was taking notes, penning quotes, and underlining and highlighting bullet points.

It requires a lot of work to change one’s outlook and thinking; therefore, I also started yoga. I joined it to shed weight for medical reasons. I had no idea that my heart and soul carried much more weight than my body. I found that yoga helped me decompress. After the stress subsided, I also began to lose weight.

I spent numerous years trying to lose weight, and I tried everything from the gym to belts, pills, and powders. However, nothing was effective. The imbalance was not only bodily but also mental and emotional.

My understanding of my body was greatly aided by yoga abhyas, meditation, and breathing techniques. Yoga helped me lose weight and balanced my mental and emotional state, leading me to live a healthier lifestyle.
I feel more confident when I get compliments on my appearance and shape.

Turning to the current year, I chose the book The Art of Being Alone at random. This book speaks to my current circumstances. It’s an excellent notion to embrace being alone and lonely. When I read it a second time, paying more attention this time.

I noticed that the book’s author, Renuka Gavrani, has highlighted the blogging platform Medium. For me, it’s new research. It was the first time I heard its name. I went to Google, downloaded the app, and created an account. Knowing that this forum is also for aspiring writers made me very happy.

However, I could not complete the remaining formalities after creating an account. The universe is directing me and opening doors with opportunities. Out of nowhere, a young content writer from Medium contacted me and offered assistance with everything. He became my Google right away. He was always there to help me out when I got stuck.

At last, I began blogging on Medium and earned money in US dollars. It was my first dollar, indeed. My confidence has increased because of this platform. I started to like it. In response to why I joined Medium, I wanted to improve at writing and writing a best-selling book.

Medium is not just a platform for writing; it also provides a community of supportive writers and readers, which has been instrumental in my personal growth and confidence building.

I keep sending out vibrations to the cosmos to write a best-selling book. My long-suppressed inner urge to express myself via writing is finally coming to fruition. I’ve discovered my calling in life. Lastly, I wrote a bestselling book, “DELICIOUSLY ALONE.”

While writing the book, I understood that I was all alone and that no one was there to support me. I must do anything for the sake of my daughter and myself. People become immersed in the pressures of society and will never stand by me.

Loneliness was never my choice. It was a constant companion, even after 13 years of marriage. The feeling of being alone while running errands and meeting deadlines was overwhelming. I turned to Lord Krishna for strength and guidance, feeling a deep sense of inadequacy. But gradually, with the aid of books, yoga, and educational and inspirational podcasts, I began to change.

Finally, I’ve come to embrace my alone time. While I used to feel the need to attend every social event, I now find peace in my work and the solitude of my home. I’ve learned that it’s okay not to please everyone, and I’ve found joy in the things I love.

Despite my busy schedule, I find solace in journaling. It’s a tool that allows me to learn, take breaks, and ask myself important questions. This process of self-reflection has been immensely satisfying and has contributed to my personal growth.

I applaud everyone searching for their purpose in life and wishing to transform their loneliness into solitude. You will undoubtedly benefit from this book. After all, we must acknowledge that you must stand up for yourself, and no one is coming to save you.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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