5 Signs Someone Is Falling Out of Love With You

I used to believe that when someone fell out of love with you, it would be obvious. I thought they would be honest and tell you that they’ve fallen out of love, or that they’d ghost you.

But the truth is that love doesn’t always end loudly. Sometimes, it’s a slow detachment that you only notice when the tone in text messages begins to change or the calls during their lunch hour become less frequent.

Here are five signs someone is falling out of love with you.

1. They Stop Making an Effort

When you love someone, effort comes easily. All you want to do is text that person 24/7 and see them all the time. Everything feels like fireworks.

But when someone falls out of love, the spark dies. The texts feel like an obligation. We might convince ourselves that they’re just busy or distracted, but the reality is that they’re slowly pulling away.

Real love doesn’t disappear. It remains consistent through life’s ups and downs.

2. Their Curiosity Fades Away

Real connection thrives on a desire to get to know someone. From their favorite color to their hopes and dreams and everything in between, curiosity builds intimacy and keeps it alive.

When someone falls out of love, they lose interest in learning about you. For the other person, it can be one of the first feelings of heartbreak — the feeling that the other person no longer seems to care.

3. You Feel Lonely When You’re With Them

If you’ve ever experienced a breakup, you already know the feeling: you’re right next to them, but it feels like you’re worlds apart. You want to talk to them the same way that you used to, but it just isn’t the same anymore. There’s no arguing taking place, but the silence can feel deafening.

4. They Avoid Having Emotional Conversations

When we’re in love, the majority of us want to have deep and emotional conversations. We want to talk about how we envision the future, our hopes and dreams, our biggest fears, and the problems we’re experiencing (and how to fix them).

But when someone falls out of love, they no longer feel the need for these kinds of conversations. If you notice that your significant other starts to avoid having these types of discussions, it’s often because they’ve already checked out of the relationship.

5. You Find Yourself Fighting for Their Attention

Back when you first started dating, you probably exchanged a ton of text messages throughout the day. Now, you’re the one who’s always initiating conversations. You send the first text, double text when you’re left on read, and make all the plans. A lot of the time, you don’t receive the responses or reactions you’re hoping for.

If it feels like you’re the one who’s making all the effort, there’s a good chance that this is a subtle sign that someone is falling out of love with you.

The Bottom Line

It can be easy to miss the signs that someone is falling out of love with us. Often, we look back and think about the signs we missed as someone’s feelings for us slowly faded away, leaving us with nothing but a broken heart.

If you’re reading this and recognize these signs, remember: losing someone who no longer loves you isn’t the end of your story. It’s the start of finding yourself again — and finding someone capable of loving you the way you deserve to be loved.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.