3 Tricks That Turn First Dates Into “I Can’t Stop Thinking About You”

First dates are usually stressful. On your first date, you want to do everything possible to make a good impression and see if you can build a connection that leads to something more intimate.

Unfortunately, the untamed desire to impress your date partner can ruin it all. In your zeal to secure yourself and prove your worth in front of the other person, you can end up hiding the very parts of you that would actually make them want to see you again.

This is why you are cautious about your actions and want to know what to do to create pure attraction on the first date.

Interestingly, there are a few tricks to make the other person excited to see you again.

These three powerful tricks can help turn your first dates into “I can’t stop thinking about you” as they are a solid guide to shift you from a guarded presentation to a genuine connection.

Embrace authenticity

As a general rule, understand that it is not about putting up a performance or pretending to be who you are not. Instead, purposefully showcase your true self while making room for a meaningful connection to emerge.

If you have experienced heartbreak in the past, it seems normal to approach new dates suspiciously. Your eyes are out for red flags here and there while keeping emotional distance as much as possible. However, realize that this defensive attitude usually blocks pure connection with someone new, as you may be portraying yourself as unapproachable and intimidating without knowing it.

Hence, instead of waiting for someone to prove themselves before you show your sweet side, take the lead by exhibiting the qualities you are known for around those you trust. This is an authentic energy ideal for approaching dating as a chance to truly engage rather than a war that must be won.

You can be warm and engaging while still maintaining appropriate boundaries around your commitment.

Share your values

When you are on a first date, you don’t have to share inappropriate personal information right there to be deemed vulnerable. Rather, subscribe to purposeful vulnerability by sharing details of your real self, which others can’t know on a surface level.

For example, share your values, things you truly care about and what your friends admire you for, but don’t overdo it. Remember, it is your first date.

Don’t make the mistake of focusing on your accomplishments and achievements alone. Doing so can turn out to be an attempt to protect your deeper self and obstruct genuine connection since it blocks who you truly are.

Bring out their best qualities

If you want the other person to keep thinking about you after the first date, one of the best tricks to employ is to make them feel their best around you. You can achieve this by asking questions that allow them to share what matters to them. You can then take things up from there by showing genuine curiosity about their perspective.

Ensure you are attentive enough to recognize their distinctive qualities and compliment them when necessary. In all you do, make them feel appreciated and understood.

Finally, every reasonable person has an inherent desire to be valued, needed, and they have something meaningful to contribute. If you can make them feel they could be a valued partner when on a date, you have established a foundation for genuine mutual interest.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.