Marriage.
Such a beautiful word.
When two people make each other their entire world, start a family, and begin a new life together.
Earlier, marriage felt fascinating to me. As a child, I used to think that when I grow up, I will also get married. Someone will love me too.
But as I grew older, reality started revealing itself.
The things that once felt fascinating now feel pointless.
Marriage has started to feel scary.
Why is it even necessary?
It has nothing to do with love anymore.
It is just two people being tied together — whether there is love between them or not cannot even be guaranteed.
Marriage is no longer limited to two people.
It becomes a bond between two families.
Two individuals being tied to each other for an entire lifetime feels terrifying.
Their whole world shrinks into each other.
This cannot be love.
This feels like a compromise.
Like other traditions, marriage is also a ritual that everyone keeps performing. First, perform the ceremony. Then have children. Then those children live the same kind of life.
Society has conditioned our minds to believe that if someone does not get married, something remains incomplete in their life.
But why is it so important?
If two people love each other and want to live together, why do they need this stamp called marriage given by society?
And I feel that because of these rigid marital bonds, affairs exist today — even among married people with children. The same society that watches others closely, the people creating these rules, often live double lives themselves.
Yet they want everyone else to follow the same path. As if no one else deserves happiness.
Choose the subjects your parents want.
Choose the college they approve of.
Marry the person they select.
And even in so-called love marriages, everything eventually becomes the same. Possession replaces freedom. Complaints replace understanding. Children become obligations. And when people grow tired of each other, they start looking for understanding outside their homes.
Then they say — no one understands me.
I know many people will not agree with this opinion. And they don’t have to. The world is vast, and every person’s thinking is shaped by their experiences and surroundings.
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