These two stories are events from my life that I rarely talk about. Only a few people have known them until now. It’s ironic I’m sharing them now, but being a parent to a toddler has made me realize the fear I carry for what my child might face.
Both happened at a mall—probably the same mall—in New York State, when I was thirteen.
The first was at Dave and Busters. Usually, kids under twenty-one were kicked out of the arcade, but that day we were allowed in. I was playing a shooting game that required me to lean over. Suddenly, an older man—maybe in his fifties or sixties—came close and said, “Hi.” I was cautious but said, “Hi” back. He asked what game I was playing. My mom, who was behind him, immediately called me away. She looked shaken, and I understood why. We saw the man leave shortly after.
The second story happened the same day. After a great afternoon, I needed the bathroom. I used the large handicap stall to avoid feeling self-conscious. I put down the seat cover and sat. On the floor was a crumpled magazine. Not about cars, politics, or anything innocent—pornography, specifically male anatomy. I froze. Alone. My mom and sister waited outside. I left as quickly as I could.
This was twenty-five years ago—back in 2000—but the weirdos haven’t disappeared.
Always stay vigilant. Because none of us know what someone else might be facing—or what memories we carry silently.
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