It’s Not Impossible to Stop Those Crazy Thoughts About Your Spouse

UNWILLING SUBMISSION

“God leads those that submit willingly and drags along the reluctant who unwillingly submit anyways.” Christopher Knight Lopez, International Best-Selling Author.

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FATE

The human mind obsesses over unchanged past. Our minds worry about imaginary futures. We attempt to shape narratives. We make decisions that don’t decide anything. We attempt to influence others’ actions, but outcomes seldom give us what we desire.

Many strive against a river whose torrent flows south but insist it change course north.

Everyone is asking their world to spin a direction that God already determined it would never spin. The sun will never rise in the west. The sun will never set in the east.

There is only one thing we can control. Though this may sound like philosophy my message is the one verifiable truth which will prevent you from self-destructing your relationship.

THE FREEWILL CHOICE OF RESPONSE

Nobody is forced to adopt a negative attitude, a bad feeling or remain in a state of anxiety. Everyone of us owns our bodies. We can decide what goes on in our minds.

We may not be able to control what happens to us but every single one of us can control how we will respond to it.

Reactions are impulses. Responses are choices. Rarely will a reaction be the response most of us would choose if we could reconsider our actions.

This conflict between reaction and response is the source of regret.

WE REGRET OUR REACTIONS NOT OUR CHOICES

Nearly everyone I know who made an informed decision, that yielded an unexpected result, has not expressed regret over their decision when I ask about their feelings on the matter.

This is largely because people reason their choice was the best anyone could have made given the facts known at the time.

Failure is a great teacher. Victory is a great time. It is difficult to learn lessons when one is enjoying themselves. There is little reason to ask oneself if there is something else which could have been done to improve a great turn of events. Most simply enjoy the result.

I do. I wager you do as well. It’s hard to criticize success. When you feel in love its difficult to ask yourself if there’s something more you can do to feel more in love.

Asking yourself how you can fall more in love almost sounds crazy.

What most regret is an impulsive reaction. For instance, imagine you say, ‘I want a divorce’ when you don’t mean it. It’s hard to take back a final statement over a temporary emotion. None the less, a final statement can leave permanent damage.

HOW TO STOP THOSE CRAZY THOUGHTS CONCISELY

Recognize your impulsive thoughts are not you. You do not have to own every thought. Not every thought you think needs to be followed. This is especially true when you are in a heightened state of anxiety, anger or sadness. Give those crazy thoughts a label or even a name. Then acknowledge them. After you acknowledge them say, “That’s interesting. I’ll think about that later and decide if that’s what I want to do.”

Then watch how different response is from reaction. I wager those crazy thoughts will stop coming because your mind will learn they’re not worth much. Try it for 21 days and let me know in the comments how it worked out for you.

CLOSING VERSE

The Final Testament. The Holy Quran. Sura [2:226] “Those who intend to divorce their wives shall wait four months (cooling off); if they change their minds and reconcile, then GOD is Forgiver, Merciful.”

IN CLOSING

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This article is meant to provoke thought — not argument. It’s a way of opening up the mind to alternative ideologies based on what one reads — not what one hears. The belief is personal and of course I respect everyone’s personal beliefs. I condemn no one for choosing whatever path — as clearly I mean to choose my own.

To Your Knowledge Success!

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1) The life of Christopher Knight Lopez a Professional Hustler turned International Best Seller and Published Author of “I Made It Then I Didn’t”.

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About Christopher: Christopher Knight Lopez is a Professional Hustler turned International Best Seller, Award Winner of the December 2024 prestigious International Impact Book Awards — a premier award program dedicated to celebrating and recognizing the exceptional work of authors around the globe and Published Author of “I Made It Then I Didn’t”. He is also a Co-Author with Kevin “The Shark” Harrington “Many Paths To Profit”. See more at www.christopherklopez.com.