It’s an unfortunate but true statement that we all have people in our lives who we could give up on.
People we once cared for deeply, people who once brought value to our lives, people who have wronged us or someone else… in our eyes.
Wronged someone so badly that we do not even try to reconcile with them, it is just easier to disassociate, abandon ship and move on.
Lovers, friends, kids, family members — people we know to be good people, but who have done something we just can’t reconcile with… in our mind.
So instead, we decide to put these people in our own little prison.
A prison that does not take away their freedom, but one which cuts off our love to them.
This is the worst prison of all.
The ‘loveless prison’.
There are 2.2 million people incarcerated in the United States.
There are exponentially more in ‘loveless prisons’ nationwide.
These ‘loveless prisons’, the ones in which we are the sole person on the parole board, do not rehabilitate a man.
It hardens them.
I don’t see how withholding love will ever make any situation better.
I’ve learned in life to always do the harder thing.
So if you have someone to which you are the parole board to in a loveless prison, love and release them.
Start anew.
The answer is always more love.
Not less.
More love.
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This post was previously published on Hello, Love and is republished here with permission from the author.
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