If You Are the Guy Women Do Not Choose, Read This

You’re the adorable chum everyone wants as a friend.

You’re in a sad zone where romantic hopes die. You are the helper or confidant. Grey areas of lust get squashed fast.

What do the jerks of society have over your charm? This question many men like you ask themselves. It can’t only be good looks. We are in the 2000s; there has to be other reasons.

Here is what you can do to up your game.

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This quality transforms rats into coachmen.

Passion adds layers to your character.

Some men always bemoan not having confidence or good looks. But are you passionate about anything in your life? Passion leaves a good impression on women.

It’s common for women to adopt the characteristics, hobbies, and passions of their love interest. What are the two things you love most in the world?

Accept them with pride.

I would hope one is a hobby, and the other relates to your career. Even if you’re still figuring your life out, know how you want to spend most of your time.

This clarity allows women to imagine scenarios of themselves in your life. For example, I’ll be the wife of a writer. We’ll both work from home, how cool.

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Do measurable tasks with your time.

Modern dating advice ranges in extremes.

From vague positivity tips to specific outlines, use the step-by-step guides. And see changes in your life and body.

Swiping right has no guarantees.

A good body, polite approach, and clarity about what you want in life right now will make you attractive.

You can have these too.

Exercise is measurable through scales and muscle mass. Improved communication skills show up in your social life. Apply quantitative advice.

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The stickiest point where most men get stuck.

What can you offer a woman?

jerks make women feel like they can change them.
players can plan grand romantic gestures.
rich guys have money to show dates a good time.
jealous men make women feel attractive & loved.
gaslighting boyfriends throw love bombs

Does anyone know what good guys give that a girlfriend or stranger can’t?

A great female friend can offer a listening ear. A paid taskmaster can do manual labor. What offers do you have to separate yourself from these people?

are you good with kids?
can you make her relationship with her parents or siblings better?
can you be everything her boyfriend is without the emotional baggage?

If you don’t know, the woman who friend-zoned you may not know either? And you may stay as her friend until an experience or new knowledge changes how she views you.

Men who know their offer even beat traditionally attractive men and get women out of their league.

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When the actor, Noah Centineo, comes to mind, I picture him in the To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before films.

When I see fake nails, my best friend crosses my mind.

Associate yourself with a feeling or characteristic.

You might always wear graphic t-shirts, don’t change to impress her. Or to compete with her ex and the current guys in her life. Be yourself.

If you always make her smile, keep doing it. When she is sad, her thoughts will land on you to stimulate dopamine production.

She might just think of you more often. and ultimately be the one she chooses.

Thank you for reading!

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