Why Is He Playing Cat and Mouse With You?

Being in a relationship can be a tormenting thing at times, especially when the other person’s attitude toward you makes you unpredictable and unpredictable. Have you ever encountered such a situation, you like a boy and want to get along well with him, but you are always treated by him inexplicably hot and cold. Sometimes you want to give up, but are aroused by his occasional warmth?

You want to be serious but his attitude is cold, and you want to give up but you are unwilling, so you can only endure the repeated torment and torture in your heart day after day.

Today, I’m here to reveal the deepest thoughts of boys, tell you the five thoughts of boys when they play cat and mouse with you, and help you understand men and solve their troubles and doubts.

1. an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth

Have you ever treated a guy hotly and coldly? For example, deliberately delaying replying to his messages, deliberately being indifferent to him, to vent their dissatisfaction?

If so, then you have to be careful. Because when a boy is in a bad mood and is dissatisfied with you, he will also treat you the same way you treated him before to vent his grievances.

Because they want a tooth for a tooth, an eye for an eye so that you can also feel the torment of being treated by someone hot and cold.

2. tantalize

Some boys may have richer emotional experiences and a better understanding of girls’ psychology. He knows that if he is very enthusiastic about you sometimes, and then suddenly disappears from playing with you, this indifferent feeling will make the girl more likely to become addicted to him.

For some girls, the more bad boys treat her, the more they can’t let go of boys.

Usually, in this case, a boy wants to trap you in this way and wants you to keep sending him messages when he is indifferent to you, and keep contacting him actively. At this time, you must not fall into his trap, because then you will inevitably be in a low position of emotion and be controlled by him.

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3. Trauma in the family

In addition to the above possibilities, there is another situation, that is, it is possible that this boy is not his original intention to be hot and cold to you.

But because of the emotional shadow of the parent-child relationship in the original family during childhood, an avoidant attachment personality was formed.

People with this type of personality will, on the one hand, actually have a deep desire to be intimate with others and to be loved. On the other hand, when you are intimate with people, you will show uneasy emotions.

When he feels that he is too close to the other party, he will have a sense of tension and inferiority, and he is afraid that the other party will find out that he is not good and leave him, so he often chooses to actively alienate.

When you meet this kind of boy, don’t rush to get angry or blame him, you should guide him patiently, help him overcome the psychological shadow, and give him a sense of security.

4. You’re a backup! You’re a second line, a just-in-case, a B-plan, a contingency.

It’s cruel, but the fact is that he put you on the bench.

Some guys have other girls they like, and they are even casting a wide net while contacting you, and you are just a b-plan when there is no other better option.

Once he finds a better partner, or he catches up with the girl who is most attractive to him, he will naturally become ignorant and indifferent to you.

For a boy like this, either we have to work hard to show our charm and become the most attractive goddess of charm, or we can just say goodbye to him directly.

5. force you to break up

If you have been with a boy for a while, but one day he slowly becomes indifferent towards you, his attitude towards you is neither salty nor indifferent, even indifferent.

Well, I’m sorry, but he probably doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you anymore. But because of the feelings, embarrassed to break up with you directly, so choose to use such a way to force you to take the initiative to break up.

There are many times when girls, after encountering a cold reception from boys, will break up with boys because they can’t bear it anymore. They may not want to break up. In many cases, they just want to attract boys’ attention in this way and cause the boy’s sense of crisis.

As everyone knows, when they say “part company” that instant, in the middle of the boy’s mind, to help the boy get relief. Sometimes, you even feel remorse and attribute the fault of breaking up to your impulse. It’s all about boys.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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