Five Things You Deserve in a Relationship

Let’s begin with a reality check: not every relationship is meant to be! You own the power to choose who you associate with, and that decision plays a fundamental role in your well-being over the short and long term.

Most people engage in self-doubt and suffer from low self-esteem when the solution lies in surrounding themselves with people who acknowledge their value and treat them with dignity and respect.

So, before giving your time, energy, and emotional investment to someone, ensure that the relationship fulfills these criteria for a healthy relationship:

Trust

Healthy relationships are built on the foundation of trust. You cannot survive with a person who questions and analyzes your every move. Imagine you don’t reply to them because you are paying them a surprise visit but they, in that time, come to the worst of worst conclusions. Imagine telling your partner that you love them and being interrogated back on the intensity of that love.

All of this stems from a lack of trust in the relationship and you should never be in such a relationship because all your energies will be spent on justifying your actions rather than building a companionship that you can rely on and that fuels your growth.

Respect

Are your opinions valued even if they are not agreed with?

Humans do not get resentful when they are disagreed with, they get resentful when they are not heard.

Your relationship must offer you space where you can express your ideas and opinions, practice your values, and not get mocked for doing so.

if your partner makes fun of you in public gatherings, it is a red flag.
if your partner makes you feel inferior and incapable of achieving your dreams, it is a red flag.
if your partner talks to you in a disrespectful tone, it is a red flag.

Honesty

If a person lies constantly, it is impossible to build a foundation of trust with them.

You deserve to be with someone who is courageous enough to be vulnerable and speak their truth. Please also ensure that you react in an emotionally intelligent manner when someone comes up to you with courage and tell the truth.

You cannot build a long-term relationship if lies are served because you will never be able to work out a solution that works satisfactorily for both parties. No matter how hard you try, there will always be some sort of unease and dissatisfaction and you don’t want that. What you deserve is an honest relationship.

Personal Space

All healthy relationships have this going right for them: the relationship is only a part of the partner’s life and is not their entire life.

You will begin to feel bored and suffocated in your relationship if it steals from you the other boys of your life. I am not implying that your relationship lacks joy but if you fail to maintain a balance in your life(love life, career, family, friends, health, hobbies) then, in the long run, it surely will become burdensome and lose its luster.

If the success of your relationship demands a sacrifice of your personal space, it is not worth it. Never worth it.

your partner must be okay with you making plans without them, though this must not happen always on your part; remember balance is the key
it is okay to sometimes want to spend time alone and ensure that your relationship allows for that
you will have differences with your partner and to be you completely, you will sometimes do things that do not interest them; your relationship must allow for this space for you