How Men Know She Is the One

If there is one thing you can’t fake, it’s been the golden trophy for any man. Men know who they want. He could be out with different girls at a time. But he knows who he wants.

It’s not just about being who he wants, but being the one for him. Before now, I never believed any thought aiming at the fact that there is one person for everyone.

But I have confirmed that men know it once they meet the one.

You’ll know it once you see her too, says my dad when I asked him how he met his wife and how he knew she was the one.

He gave me a couple of reasons, many of which aligned with my thoughts when I met the one for me.

How men know she is the one

It might not be sure, but men who are intentional about the future of their relationships have an inkling early on that the woman is the person they want to spend forever with.

For some, it’s glaring; for others, it is difficult to point to the attributes that make the woman worth it, but many men feel this way. You might have met the one when you feel any of these things.

She doesn’t tick any of the regular boxes

Sort of to say she is imperfectly perfect. Every man has a basic thought of the kind of woman they want to make their wife. Some are unrealistic, while others are like a straight line.

But what strikes many men at first is how a woman doesn’t exactly tick all the regular boxes of what they want in a woman, but they still somehow want to be with them.

“There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection” — Tonya

The phrase ‘the one’ relates to rarity, and when a woman gives you such an aura, it will undoubtedly touch a particular part of your heart. Then you find yourself overly interested to the extent of being married and still trying to understand how rare she is after 50 years of marriage.

She’ll consistently keep being unique and ticking all the boxes you never knew existed.

You start intentional preparation

Provision and planning are now normal attributes for all parties in a relationship and for a married man.

Although the attributes of provision and planning are usually for all men, unmarried men who have just found the one they want to spend the rest of their lives with will begin to prepare with intentionality.

At this point, you consciously start to change your financial plans. You begin to form new morals and living guides for yourself because you see yourself with her in a family.

With such preparation, she makes you find a better version of yourself. Not just that, you start to include her in your plans.

She becomes that one particular person that fits right into all your plans.
You plan your college with her, the next phase of your life, your financial goals, your idea of a perfect family, and your idea of the perfect retirement.

When you find that special person, the future becomes an exciting mystery you want to explore with them because you are already invested and fulfilled with the present.

She becomes the reason you understand what made your mum special

A man is likely to fall in love and marry a woman who reminds him of his mum. Of course, everyone wants to fall in love with a good woman, especially when she is as good as your mum.

But the thing about finding that special woman for you is that she not just only reminds you of your mum or makes you fall in love, but she makes you see exactly why your mum is special.

Everything she does starts to give you a recall of being with your mum

She still offers to make your favorite meal even when she is tired.
She shows kindness, patience, and understanding even when you’re not on good terms.
She nurtures and values you like it is more than just a relationship.

In essence, you start seeing your mum’s reflection in her, and even more so in a unique way covered by her own individuality.

Willingness to sacrifice increases

Can you take a bullet for a woman?
Do you feel you can put her needs and desires before yours?
Do you see yourself being involved in things you have no interest in?

When you meet her, all of these questions will be answered strongly affirmatively.

Once she doesn’t tick any of the regular boxes, reminds you of your mum, and more, and starts being included in all your plans, your willingness to sacrifice will increase.

Men are known to protect their families. A brother to his brother, a son to his mum/dad, and a brother to his sister. But when you see a married man in love protect his wife, you know there is a different level to sacrificing for love.

When it is certain you’ll never let anything happen to her, no matter the condition. That’s your final queue to know she is the one.

Final Thoughts

For every man, meeting the one means you have a shot at experiencing a great marriage and a blissful life. However, your special woman is not exempt from any shortcomings, and your relationship will not be perfect. But it is confident she’ll always want to keep trying to make it work and keep on going.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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