There’s an old saying in personal growth circles that if you want to grow your business, you’ll need to grow yourself. This demonstrates the truth we are always experiencing a reflection of what our belief system is willing to allow, and what we’re willing to allow in this context has a lot to do with our beliefs and associations relating to business, money and success.
For example, perhaps the main earner in your household growing up was your father, who was a good Dad who you loved very much. As a boy, you hung on his every word as he taught you all he knew about how to be a good man. However, your Dad was someone who hadn’t received a college education and had always had to work very hard to make just enough to meet his family’s needs. His commitment to hard work and sacrifice for his family was admirable, but it also came with some beliefs about money and a scarcity consciousness that he passed on both in conversation and by his actions.
Our beliefs are reproduced in our experiences, so when you try to start your own business, you notice that you have to work really hard to barely get by and your business suffers from a lack of clients, difficulty getting paid for the value it provides and you’re considering closing your business and getting a job. In a situation like this, the solution to your business woes resides within your belief system, and if you don’t deal with it now, you will always be held back by the invisible sabotaging consciousness that you have inherited from your Dad. The following five strategies will help you to overwrite the programming you have in your subconscious mind, and expand your potential and the results of your business.
Make Time for Your Personal Growth
It is easy to assume some people become successful more easily than others. After 15 experience of studying and coaching in the field of personal growth, I can assure you that, while some people have personality traits that help them succeed, no one comes pre-packaged for success in everything they attempt. Life is just not like that. Those with greater talent will attempt bigger goals, and those goals will be their teacher of whatever lessons they next need to learn, sometimes in painful ways. You are not alone in facing blocks and barriers on your pathway to success. However, those who recognize that each block and barrier is just a reflection of one or more unconscious belief, will do what it takes to reveal and positively reframe those beliefs, expanding their potential and results each time they do so.
Never Quit on Your Self
The truth is that life is an exercise in personal growth, whether you are conscious of it or not, and now you are! You have everything you need within you to conquer any challenge that comes in front of you, but only if you commit to yourself and persevere until you have overcome that challenge. All challenges are just reflections of unconscious misalignment with what you are consciously trying to achieve. The solution to each challenge will be found when the unconscious beliefs that attracted it become known to you. I have seen this happen over and over again in my own life and that of all my clients. But the most important commitment you can make is to yourself. So, never quit!
Be Willing to Ask for Help
One of the most common weaknesses among males is our unwillingness to ask for help or direction. Just ask your wife, she’ll tell you! Many of us have grown up to feel expected to have a ready solution for every problem, which is a big ask, especially when it’s our unconscious beliefs that attract what we see as problems. The most successful people have become aware of this and aren’t afraid to seek out help from those who know what they don’t, either because these people have done what they’re trying to do, or they’re expert in coaching others to do it. Potential sources of help include mastermind groups, willing mentors, or coaches, particularly those who understand how the mind creates our reality and can give you the insights you need about your unconscious processes, thereby accelerating your growth.
Forgive those who Misled You
As you travel within to find and overwrite your mental programming, you will inevitably discover that people you hold dear have given you the beliefs that are now sabotaging your success. Remember that they shared what they thought they knew with love in their hearts, wanting the best and brightest future for you, never thinking anything they might share with you would potentially hold you back. In a sense, they are the providers of the opportunities for you to grow. Without their beliefs, you would not have had the chance to experience the thrill that comes from taking a quantum leap in life potential each time you recognize higher truths that progressively set you free. No one on this planet is perfect, although as children our parents and the others who love us often seem so. They’ve done their best to chart your course when you were too young to do that for yourself. So forgive them their mistakes, and thank them for their loving guidance. You have everything within you to get where you want to go.
Be Discerning about what You Make Your Truth
When I was in the business of helping inventors, I once heard the saying “ideas are like belly-buttons, everybody’s got one”. That meant everyone thinks they’ve got a million dollar idea and that they should be paid $1 million for it. The truth is there’s a whole lot of work that goes into creating valuable inventions, and even Thomas Edison apparently took 10,000 attempts before he was happy with his light bulb.
In this context, everyone will have advice when asked, but relatively few will have the wisdom and experience to give you advice that will be useful to you. So discernment is required to sift out the advice that isn’t useful and even harmful to you. You can increase the potential relevance of advice you receive in the following three ways:
- Choose experienced mentors
- Ask plenty of questions to understand what experiences are guiding their advice.
- Use your feelings to determine whether their advice is right for you.
Of these three points, the last one needs most elaboration.
Your body is very smart, with built-in intuition that can help you discern what’s right for you in any business situation. The body is perhaps your most important mentor of all, as the feelings it generates are designed to guide you in discerning the best steps to take in any situation. In general terms, what feels good and peaceful within your body is intuitive confirmation of the “rightness” of what you are receiving. Feelings that aren’t good and peaceful are clues that there’s something within your consciousness that is not aligned with the advice you’re receiving, and indicate this advice will not work well if you implement it in your current consciousness. That said, the advice may work perfectly well for someone else, but you just hold beliefs that would sabotage your following it.
In those situations, you can always refer to strategy number 3 and ask for help from someone who can help you identify your inner blocks, so you can get where you’re going quickly and more easily.
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