As a single parent myself, I can tell you more than a few things about single mom dating, and what it’s like to be involved with a woman raising kids on her own – if you don’t have a high level of relationship maturity, don’t waste her time. Other just as important elements of dating a woman who’s got a family to raise, a career, and something of a social life are outlined below, and I hope that my thoughts will be enough for all guys out there wondering if they have what it takes to date a single mom.
#1: She Doesn’t Need You
Guys love to be needed but rest assured a single mom doesn’t need you. She’s done all this on her own and created a life that revolves around setting the right kind of example for her kids and ensuring they have a happy and fulfilling life. You haven’t been a part of that, and she can just as easily go on without you. As someone living with the responsibilities of raising kids by myself, I could totally relate to this, but nevertheless, it can bruise your ego a little bit. However, when you really think about it the mere fact that you’re in a single mom’s life means she wants you, and you must be pretty special to her.
#2: Don’t Waste Her Time
A single mom has a lot on her plate, and she doesn’t need you to waste her precious time or give her the emotional rollercoaster of trying to figure out whether you can date a woman with kids or not. Don’t you ever make her feel bad about being a mom or say things like, ‘I like you very much, I’m just not sure about the kids’. She’ll despise you because you have to understand that no matter how great you might be, her kids will always come first. Don’t tell her you love kids when all you want is to get laid. Be honest from the get-go, and if it’s a relationship you want, be prepared for a very complex endeavor. If it’s just a casual fling you’re looking for say so! We’re all adults here, and it just might be what she needs right now.
#3: Make Her Feel Special
Single parents become their routine and lose themselves in the process, believe me. It’s tricky to make someone feel special when you’re all about karate lessons, PTAs, and keeping bullies at bay, and don’t remember the last time you did something for yourself. Be that as it may, you have to make a single mom feel special. Always pay for dinner and the date. She’s already paid for the babysitter and has taken the time away from her kids to be with you. Give her a first-class experience that allows her to relax and enjoy herself for those couple of hours.
#4: Keep the Kids out of it
Your kids have probably made it abundantly clear they don’t want to know about your private life. I know mine certainly have. Rest assured her kids are just the same – they want their mommy all to themselves. When you date as single parents, it’s best to keep the kids out of it, not force them to meet the other person, and definitely not make them feel guilty for not wanting to cooperate. Instead, you should each spend time with your kids alone, have activities that are just yours, without your partner to maintain trust and make the kids feel valued since your time is the most valuable thing you can give them.
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