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It may be a hard pill to swallow, but you’re the only reason your dates fail. No one else. Whether you’re looking for a long-term relationship or a one-night swing, you must bring something to the table for the other person to be interested. If you have nothing, chances are you’re going home alone.
Many are convinced they are enough the way they are, and although modern psychology teaches us to love ourselves no matter what, nature thinks otherwise. Being confident is great, and women love confidence, but the law of attraction says you must offer value alongside.
According to science, men have higher self-confidence than women. In many cases, this self-confidence is just an illusion, and how these people perceive themselves in the mirror is inaccurate. We’re not talking just about physical appearance here, but the entire image of who they are.
What Women Actually Want?
The first question to ask, so that you know where you might be going wrong, is – what do women actually want in a man? Some would argue that this is one of the oldest riddles of mankind, but the truth is simple and women are not as complex as one might think.
Every case is individual, but the general rule says that most women will want these few characteristics in the man they’re dating:
- Hygiene – greasy hair on the first date screams lack of care for everything else in your life.
- Style – the way you dress shows your status, and your status is critical.
- Being well-spoken – being unable to express yourself on a date won’t leave the best impression.
- Patience – take it easy, and don’t rush things.
- Status – it’s not the same working for minimum wage and owning a company.
- Looks – great physical appearance is a bonus in her eyes.
If you’ve noticed, looks are last on this list. Many men are stressed over their looks because this is one of the top priorities on their list, but this God-given preference is not something you should focus on. Instead, work on yourself and improve every other point on this list.
What Does Working on Yourself Mean?
Working on yourself means dedicating yourself to creating a successful person by all means. Focusing on your physical and mental health, education, and career are all equally important. If you’re in your 20s, you should be physically fit, so focusing on your education and career should be the top priorities.
When you walk into your 30s, minding what you eat and exercising should become primary goals. By now, you should have a notable career and only drive forward. However, this won’t be possible without excellent mental and physical health.
Mental and physical health are essential for developing a winning mentality
Having a successful dating life means owning a winning mentality. Although some will dispute this term as sexist or chauvinist, it actually has nothing to do with anyone else but yourself and your mindset. Winning mentality, in this case, means knowing that you’re physically and mentally on a higher level. It is an asset in the dating world.
The winning mentality mindset will make you self-confident with a reason. Backing it up means constantly improving your mental and physical strength.
It’s not a coincidence that we’re talking about mental and physical strength together. These two are deeply interconnected. You can’t be mentally tough without working out and being physically strong, and vice versa; mentally tough men will dedicate themselves to exercising.
Working out regularly is essential to build this person we’re talking about. Going at least three times per week in the gym, doing cardio, and lifting weights will shape your body and mind. Aside from building muscle and looking healthy, you’ll also look great.
The woman’s mind sees men’s muscles as a sure sign of a competent person, so if you want to leave a great first impression, muscles will do the job. While working out, add some Switch Nutrition to your diet before and after exercising, and make sure you’re creating a perfect version of yourself.
Read, Educate, and Grow
Who you are today is not important. Your failures from yesterday are in the past, and you can’t change the past. You can only focus on the future self. Read every day. Educate yourself and grab every chance for career growth.
Reading enriches your vocabulary. A well-spoken person will mesmerize the person sitting on the other side of the table, and you can only do this by constantly reading and expanding your horizons.
When you get to a point where you earn enough to support yourself easily, you’re well-spoken, look great, and know how to treat a woman, you become the whole package. You’ll quickly sweep everyone off their feet.
Final Words
This topic is far more complex to be pressed into one short three-minute article. Great minds have been discussing it for ages and still haven’t found a one-size-fits-all solution.
However, it is an undeniable truth that focusing on yourself and developing the person we talked about above will help you reach your goal. When you get to this place, all doors will open for you. A successful man is every woman’s dream, and we just explained what success in their eyes means.
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