For ages, women have struggled for equal rights. Societal bias has led to atrocities too brutal to bear. But as we battle these biases, we have left the men behind. They are lost in the crowd.
Men have played a vital role in ruthlessness against women. But, if we recall history, there were men who supported women, when many women themselves were against their own rights and weren’t ready to fight on behalf of their soul. Silent and restrained, men have been suffering due to gender inequality lately too.
Feminism doesn’t mean picking women over men or lowering the dignity of the opposite gender. The women’s liberation movement is a broad term that focuses on the rights of women for them to be at par with men. Men too should be at par with women, neither behind nor ahead. That is what Nature has been seeking from humanity since dawn—balance.
If you are wondering about the many women around the world who are suffering, let me tell you that men are not subsisting in serenity either. There are several reasons why I say this:
Men are expected to be responsible for their parents along with their wife and children, unlike many women who—after marriage—move into their spouse’s home. This raises mental, physical and financial responsibilities for men immensely. According to the legal jurisdiction in many countries, a man has to give away a percentage of his income to his ex-wife, even if the latter is a working woman. Is this fair?
Since long, men have been painted as of low character, morally inferior, and victims of uncontrollable desperation. Why do we forget that not all men are the same? Why is it that every man is questioned for the mistakes of a few? When it comes to matrimony, men are expected to earn well. This brings down a man’s charm as the world seeks capital, not character, of him. When it comes to proposing or courting, women refrain from doing so, even if they are aware of how intense their feelings are. Anxieties regarding rejection are flung at the man for him to handle.
I believe that it’s time that we women make use of the well-known art of being “the inspiration behind every successful man” in helping them overcome such barriers, and support them as some of them supported (and continue to support) us in our struggle for equality. It’s time we learn to give respect as much as we ask for it.
To the women, I would say practice what you preach. You have been battling many struggles since long. If you couldn’t bear gender bias and all the complexities it brings, you can’t let men grin and bear it now. And to the men, I would say that it’s time you start speaking up for yourselves to create a saner, more equal world.
Originally published by Quaff Media Pvt Ltd
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