All partners complain about each other’s behavior. But successful couples know how to make their points without making each other miserable.
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The Gottman Institute studied thousands of couples to figure out what makes some marriages last and others fall apart. How couples handle conflict is the most critical factor.
Ex-friggin-#$@!-actly. We need balance, you know… that zen thing that is so hard to master. In my relationship “reboot” after my failed marriage – and re-entering the all things single-dating-divorced scene, I am both surprised and somewhat saddened that many of us haven’t figured this out yet (and yes somewhat including myself), because we are hyper-focused on NOT dating anyone that isn’t hyper-cheerleading-positive or has “drama” in their lives – that we need both positive and negative. The middle of the fulcrum is balanced for a reason. I was mentally focused on such a thought experiment the other day, and… Read more »