Christin Myrick has something to say to the good men of the world: thank you.
I know there are a lot of articles out there about what men should know or shouldn’t know, what men should be or shouldn’t be, but I am going to tell you upfront; this article is different.
This article was born from a small and seemingly insignificant event that generated a tsunami of deep gratitude.
Last week, my brother went to trial. He was asked to go into a court room and face our father, a terrible and violent man who has inflicted upon us a lifetime of abuse.
My little brother whom I raised, and loved, and cared for as my own, whose nightmares I soothed and to whom I fed his favorite peanut butter and strawberry jelly sandwiches (cut into the shapes of small guns).
My little brother went into this battle to face a monster that threatened our family. From the outside it may seem like a trivial fight, but I see it differently. This boy was asked to do something awful and difficult, knowing that it will be one of many, many battles and he stepped into it simply, with his head held high.
I have never been so proud in all my life.
He walked into the fire a boy and emerged a man, a very good man. I realized, somewhere between my relief and nightmares, that this same warrior symbolism is playing out all over the world in experiences big and small.
To the good men out there, what I want you to know is this:
- Thank you for fighting to make the world a better place, for fighting the good fights, the bad fights, and especially the ugly ones.
- Thank you for striving to improve your selves, for learning about women, about masculinity and about real strength. I have learned true honor and valor from you.
- Thank you for going out every day to provide – whether you provide food, safety, or love in abundance. Thank you for what it takes to be a man and give the way you do.
- Thank you for the times you have shown me your weakness. Not necessarily in front of everyone, or as a proclamation, but in the shadows of night – when the day is over and you can rest. I see it cross your sleeping face, how difficult life can be, how cruel people can be to you, and it is an honor to hold that safe. I hold your secrets safe and find you even more incredible for sharing them with me.
- I respect you. I respect your work, your truth, and your love. I respect who you are because you are a good man. I have no idea what that is like for you, but I respect it.
- Thank you for being a good father, brother, husband and partner. For going out and doing what needs to be done, even when you don’t feel like it, when your tired, and on the brink of giving up, still you carry on – for the sake of us and our family. Your heart is so amazing.
- Thank you for loving me, for you truly must. Thank you for loving me when I am crazy, hormonal, beautiful, perfect, raging, storming, calm, generous, receptive or any of the other incredible myriads of my existence. Thank you for loving all of me.
- And last, thank you for letting me love all of you. You are good and kind, a warrior, a lover, and a king. I love you for your light, your generosity and humor. I love you for your darkness, your rage and deliberation. Who you are is beautiful and so multi-faceted it would take me a lifetime to know all of you, and I love you anyway.
Thank you for who you are and who you help me become. I am a better woman, because you are a better man.