When was the last time you told your mother that you love her?
Mother’s Day is coming up soon. What a day indeed: a time set aside for letting your mother know that you care. I’m not gonna bother with the whole “you should care all the time” shtick. Just let her know you love her. Yeah, she’s a parent and probably wouldn’t hold it against you if you never came out and said the words or made the gestures—parents are good like that. But never mind that and let her know anyway.
Have you ever seen the movie Nine? It stars Daniel Day-Lewis as a director who is trying to work on his latest hit but keeps coming across various roadblocks that include other women and flashbacks from various points in his life. Honestly, I don’t care that much about the majority of the movie but one part that sticks in my mind is the performance of the song “Guarda La Luna,” sung by Sophia Loren, who plays his dearly departed mother in the film.
That song triggers memories of my mom. Yes, memories: my mom’s been dead for eight years now. Each time I hear that song, all those memories come flooding back. But there is one thing that I just can’t recall.
I can’t recall the last time I told her I love her. It could be that I simply don’t remember and that would be bad enough, but a part of me wonders if I ever told her. And that is downright scary.
So why should you make sure to tell your mother you love her? You never know when your next chance to tell her,will be your last chance to tell her.
Mother’s Day won’t mean much to me for a very long time, if ever again. Maybe that makes me a cautionary tale. Unless there’s a chance in the afterlife I’ll never get to make sure I told her.
Don’t make that same mistake. In the meantime I’ll just be looking at the moon, thinking of a dance I’ll never dance.
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Sorry to hear you have regrets.
My mum died 9 years ago. That’s probably the one thing I can remember her doing that’s been most positive for me. Maybe one day I will find within me some shreds of love for her. Maybe I will even miss her. I’m not holding my breath, though.
I’m sorry about the events in your life that led you to feel that way Lars. I have to say a comment like this makes me glad that my mom was so good to me.
One nice thing about not having a mother — I don’t think you can use the term mother to describe the creature that gave birth to me — is I don’t have to worry about doing anything for mother’s day!