I know. Bold title, right? Well, it’s one of those moments in which the energy seems to want to express righteously. I’ve learned to trust myself to flow with these energies. Because it’s not about me. There is no me. It just wants to flow. So here goes…
1. Don’t make them wrong. About anything. Ever.
Making something wrong turns it into a shadow. Its expression is then repressed and distorted. This is what creates criminal behavior. This is what will lead your child to become what you are attempting to guide them away from.
2. Give them TONS of freedom.
Involve yourself as little as possible. Use your impulses to guide their behavior as a chance to be in your own practice around noticing fear in your energy field. When fear is present in your choices to limit them, you may be creating more fear. You may be infusing their innocent bodies with the venom of fear.
3. Mirror how incredible they are.
Look for what is absolutely amazing about them. What is unique. What is brilliant. What is beautiful beyond description. But do not focus so much on their behaviors. As much as possible, do not make these reflections conditional. Notice what never changes. What can never go away in time. That which is not dependent on their actions and choices. Mirror the beauty of who they inherently are.
4. Focus on your own alignment with love
Your kid is more aligned with love than you are. They have more to teach you than you have to teach them. They are the experts on play, on joy, on freedom. Observe them as the teachers they are and allow them to model love without your interference. Learn from them, so that you may align with love. Be vigilant in interacting with them from this space.
5. Allow them space to be fully themselves. Celebrate who they authentically are.
Do not try to mold them into who you think they should be. You’re probably just perpetuating what your parents or society taught you is the proper way to do things. Your intentions are most likely noble in setting them up for a bright future, but anything that goes against their natural inspiration is likely creating the opposite. A bright future is knowing who we are. Trusting ourselves. Being fully ourselves in every single beautiful and precious moment of life. Anything we can do that will lead them in this direction of self-discovery and self-trust is providing a service beyond measure. Not only to them, but to ourselves and the rest of the world.
That’s all for now!
Now get out there and raise them “the right way”!
Love, love, love!
A version of this post was originally posted on TroyCohen.Wordpress.com and is republished here with permission from the author.