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As fathers we embody the response to our children’s lives. Healthy, clear thinking men prioritize their children’s health and development. Considering where our children are nourished, we inevitably come to their mothers. All children drink from the stream of their mothers’ lives.
When we enter the stream of our children’s mothers, whether it is mentally, emotionally, physically or all three, we influence our children’s nurture and growth. Each thought and feeling we entertain, for as long as we entertain it, pollutes the stream of conscious life flowing through our children.
In my counseling practice most if not all children of separating, conflicted parents make this statement: “I just want them to get along…….why can’t they be nice to each other?”
Loving our children’s mothers beyond courting is a spiritual mandate which most men must work hard at following. Once the shine and fun disappear, loving our parenting partners becomes a daily skill building task requiring discipline. Putting our children first brings us again and again to the importance of loving their mom.
Is your relationship with your children’s mother coming from a disciplined thought and feeling place which bypasses resentment, blame, hostility?
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How did your father demonstrate love for your mom? Is your relationship with your children’s mother coming from a disciplined thought and feeling place which bypasses resentment, blame, hostility? Do you practice in your thinking, WHEN YOU ARE AWAY FROM YOUR CHILD’S MOTHER, appreciation and acceptance?
When we don’t appreciate and accept, we feel emotional difficulty. Pay attention to your feelings and you’ll notice immediate feedback to your thinking. When we think accepting and appreciating thoughts we feel good. When our thinking is resisting or rejecting, we poison the stream nurturing our children. Watch your thoughts.In your clear moments, when you are benevolent and kind, write down a statement affirming your love for your child, and include that child’s mother.
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This article originally appeared on The Father Connection
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