Becoming the best version of a single dad can have its challenges. Most of us are friends with single dads. In spending time with them you will come to understand the amount of time and energy they spend on the challenges if being a single parent. It’s an even harder challenge in raising daughters as a single dad.
You’re here because you are looking for guidance in taking on the challenge of raising children alone. To better understand the keys to success when it comes to raising children alone as a single dad, I did research and talked with some of my friends who are exclusively raising children alone due to different circumstances.
I admire single dads, and the challenges they face as they continue to raise their children alone. Regardless, if you’re separated, divorced, widowed or in the position of being the custodial parent, the challenges are all alike.
So, given the advice from people who have previously walked in your shoes, here are a couple of suggestions for taking on this important task successfully.
Ask others for help.
It’s unlikely you’re alone in this, right? Most of the dads I have spoken with discuss the importance of another mentor in their children’s life. It is especially important to have a strong female mentor when it comes to raising daughters.
For many dads, an aunt, a grandmother or perhaps other female family member is a great role model for the position.
For some dads, it was the mother of one of his children’s peers. While for some other fathers this role was best filled by a mentor from a local Church Youth leader, a local Girl Scout Leader or even an athletic coach.
Take note though that finding a capable and strong role model is vital to your child’s success while growing up. Make good communication the number one priority.
As a man, and as a father we tend to take an “I must fix it” mentality in our relationships and general outlook on life.
Make Good Communication a Priority.
We often listen just enough to identify the problem, and then we offer some form of a quick solution. Our kids generally don’t want us to fix their issues; what they actually are looking for instead, is for us to simply listen to them vent about a problem so they can work out their own solutions.
As a single dad, you should understand that keeping the lines of communication open will need time, patience and your willingness to make it a priority.
Teach your child to solve his own problems, with your guidance of course.
Oftentimes, our children require a bit of coaching when it comes to problem-solving. Sitting down with them to discuss the issue, and finding alternatives to bring forth a sound conclusion can sometimes be counter-intuitive for some fathers.
Regardless, it is crucial to teach them how, and not to always lean on us for solutions. Helping our children to build their own problem-solving skills will serve them well throughout their life.
Do not overprotect your child.
I have learned from my own experiences with my son that I had no issue when I need to be his “older brother” that’ll come to rescue him anytime someone does something wrong to him.
It became harder for me as a parent, to allow myself to let my child struggle with some of life’s challenges and problems. Overprotecting can lead to your children becoming too dependent or to rebel, and neither of these has a positive outcome.
Let them have some limited risks and they will learn to be confident as they succeed. Be involved in their life. I cannot stress the importance of this one enough.
You need to let yourself become involved with your children’s life.
If you’re a single dad of a daughter, she’ll need to feel your support even stronger. Attend athletic contests, take her shopping occasionally. Be around the house when she has friends around.
Do not forget to present opportunities to be together so that, your relationship will grow. Help your children understand healthy boundaries in dating.
Helping your children to transition through puberty can be pretty awkward. However, successful single dads suggest being open and honest about these types of things.
Explain to your daughters why you want to be involved in their relationships with the people they surround themselves with. Another important point is helping her to understand the changes happening to her emotions, body, and hormones as she makes her transition into puberty.
For daughters, being able to rely on your trusted female mentors for sensitive issues can be helpful.
Many young men and women who have positive group relationships with both genders often feel more supported as they transition into puberty.
You can create some of those group opportunities as well. Enrolling your child into a great educational institute will play a HUGE role in what kind of person he or she will become in the future.
Enroll your children in a good school.
You should be no holds bar when it comes to this decision. Educational Institutions like Singapore International School can be a great choice.
International schools like Global Indian International School, for instance, have a unique approach to education. Instead of structuring the program around a strict curriculum, the curriculum focuses on trying to create a learning experience that prepares students to be happy, balanced, productive, and innovative as they grow up.
All courses in an international course can be applied to a child, of any background. Also, international schools generally have better facilities, equipment, and educators than any other school types.
This is further beneficial if you’re a migrant from India since your children will be able to learn alongside people with similar backgrounds. By allowing them to express themselves better and develop into a well-rounded individual. Indeed, no one will deny that becoming a single dad has its fair share of challenges. We hope you learned some valuable tips to becoming the best single dad you can be. Best of luck!
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