Being unstoppable is self-awareness and knowing oneself. It’s an internal vibe — a big ol’ authentic pawprint you leave on friends, people, plants, co-workers, or the world — like the scent of fresh buttermilk biscuits dipped in your honey in the kitchen.
Let’s dive into these 10 small but mighty things you can do to crank up your charm factor.
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1. Be What You Seek
Want to attract a dreamboat partner, job, or lifestyle?
First, you gotta be the dreamboat. You gotta walk the walk the way you talk it. What does your daily life look like if you are being your best, giving your best, and doing your best — in mind, body, and soul?
For me, the basics are sleep, exercise, pickleball, hobbies, socialization, learning, listening to and playing music, arts, travel, skill building, meditation, yoga, hikes, planning romantic date nights, thoughtful acts and words and meaningful texts at random times with those you care about.
Whatever you need to be your best, balance and figure out the three contexts of being what you seek in mind, body, and soul.
If you’re chasing confident, kind, soulful, ambitious folks, you can’t be out here wobbling through your life like a three-legged stool. Work on yourself and follow your heart — whether at the gym, job, or spiritual practice.
The golden rule of attraction: You can’t expect to attract a 3-star Michelin human experience if you live and eat like late-night 2:00 a.m. Taco Bell runs (no offense to TB; I love an occasional Crunchy Gordita).
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2. Keep It Real
Authenticity is rarer than a great white shark that likes to cuddle.
Stop trying to impress the world with money, success, status, or material things. Sure, buy high-quality things that last and improve the quality of your life, but stop trying to impress everyone; it’s exhausting, narcissistic, and predictable.
Laugh at yourself. Laugh at your mistakes. Laugh at how seriously people take this short human experience. And if you forget to chill, remember to read Steve Jobs’s words on why being worth 10.2 billion didn’t matter on his deathbed.
Forget what the Joneses think — they ain’t paying your funeral bills.
Be quirky, be real, and be okay if some folks don’t “get” you. Trust me, the right people will love you for exactly who you are (glorious mullets and all).
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3. Confidence Is King (or Queen)
Confidence is like your favorite barbecue sauce—the more you push out negativity and slather confidence around your messy, scary, fearful mind, the better your life gets.
Say yes to growth, take risks, and don’t be afraid to put yourself out there.
Whether you’re asking your boss for a raise or chatting up a beautiful stranger, confidence is magnetic.
And remember: If not you, then who?
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4. Lead with Kindness
Kindness is WD-40 for relationships — it smooths everything out. The more you want to be right at all costs, the more friction you’ll create.
Allow WD-40 to work out the kinks and wrinkles in your life by listening more, making eye contact, and saying, “Tell me more,” or “Why do you feel that way?”
Be the person who listens without interrupting, lends a hand without expecting a trophy, and stays calm when life gets messy.
Leadership ain’t about barking orders; it’s about showing people you care about them.
Being unstoppable means having the backing and loyalty of the people you care about and work with around you. To have this, you’ll need to be a kind, service-oriented leader, period.
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5. Stay Curious and Humble
Ever met someone who knows everything?
Ever met someone who talks too much?
Have you ever met someone who has to be right about everything?
It’s boring, annoying, and frustrating, right?
Keep your mind open and your curiosity on full blast.
Read, explore, and ask questions. People love talking to someone who’s got more to say than “How ‘bout that weather?”
Or, “I’m an expert in clouds and the reason it rained is because clouds are moving through a high pressure pattern and you are wrong about it not raining, even though it didn’t rain — blah blah blah.”
No one likes know-it-alls — ask better questions, get better answers.
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6. Open That Self-Aware Mind
If you’re set in your ways, beliefs, and habits, you’re closing the door on a world of connections, possibility, and adventure.
Be open-minded and try new things.
Be curious about your beliefs, biases, education, parents’ communication styles (because they role-modeled how to live and communicate), habits, and ability to ruminate about everything without awareness.
Try new foods, meet different people, and learn from perspectives that aren’t your own.
Being unstoppable in life grows when you’re approachable and flexible and adaptable—this is the definition of badassery.
Nobody’s lining up for a closed-off know-it-all clowns, even if they drive a Ferrari.
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7. Show Your Passion
Whatever revs your internal engine — lean into it.
Passion is infectious, mesmerizing, and attractive.
Whether it’s for baking sourdough bread, rebuilding antique cars, or debating why pineapple belongs on pizza (it does), know that your passion shows you’ve got a heartbeat, and people love that.
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8. Stay Small, Stay Consistent
Ambition and success aren’t about chasing and making huge amounts of money; they’re about pursuing your meaningful problems through consistent daily efforts despite the struggle.
For me, that’s writing. I love the feeling of words coming together. I love to share my thoughts. I love to serve others with life lessons from pro sports. Whether your North Star is starting a business, raising your kids, or perfecting your chili recipe, daily consistent efforts show you’ve got what it takes to become unstoppable.
People are attracted to folks who care about something more significant than the next Netflix binge (except on rainy Sundays).
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9. Take Care of Yourself
Here’s the deal: you can’t pour anything from an empty cup, my friend. You can’t be unstoppable if you don’t take care of yourself.
As Mark Manson said, “To get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life.”
Get better at taking care of your mind, body, and spirit. Drink water, take naps, work out, play your sport, sit in nature, hike with your partner, sit in fields, meditate in the shower (my personal favorite), do the cold plunge/sauna combo, go on adventures that make you a little uncomfortable, and floss your teeth for the love of homemade biscuits.
When you care for yourself, you radiate energy that others want to be around.
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10. Be Ready for Adventure
Life’s too short to sit on the sidelines and say “no” to anything that might feel uncomfortable.
Try surfing the edges of your comfort zone with a road trip, a new hobby, or just saying “yes” to karaoke night. It can be small or big, who cares. Just do something you haven’t done before.
Be up for anything, and you’ll start to adopt the mindset of someone who lives an unstoppable life.
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So there you have it — 10 simple, powerful ways to turn up your unstoppable meter to all-time highs.
Being unstoppable doesn’t mean you won’t struggle, fail, or mess up—it means you deal with adversity better than others when it happens.
Remember, it’s not about perfection. It’s about showing up as your best, realest version of who you want to become. Until next time, stay kind, stay curious, and keep that mullet flowing in the wind. 🦅
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Ps. Read my latest life lessons article: What 18 Years of Dog Daddy-Ing Taught Me About Love, Life, and Spirituality.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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