How to Be a Good Kisser
The perfect kiss may exist only in tales and fables. In reality, becoming a better kisser takes practice and effort. It’s worth remembering that many beautiful relationships begin with a kiss. In fact, the potential of a future relationship can often hinge on that first kiss.
The list below showcases the best kissing styles and techniques you can try with your partner to explore new heights of passion.
1. Flutter Kiss
The flutter kiss, also known as the “butterfly kiss,” is a playful kiss that many women swear by. Typically, with this type of kiss, you bring your face close to your partner’s face. As your lips meet, feel each other’s warm breath while your eyelashes make contact.
When your eyelashes make contact with your partner’s, bat your eyelashes and softly kiss on the upper and lower lip. The flutter kiss is a great way to move onto moist kisses.
2. Mystical Crush
The mystical crush is a naughty and playful way to get your partner wanting you really bad. Wrap your arms around your lover’s waist or neck and pull them close. As you slightly part your lips, look into your partner’s eyes, and breathe gently.
Let your lips do the caressing as you open your mouth and close your eyes. Then draw back suddenly and repeat the process. The mystical crush is a mesmerizingly seductive kiss that leaves your partner craving more.
3. The Tingle
The tingle is a sensual type of kiss used to gradually raise the temperature. As you are deep absorbed in the act, move your kisses to different areas of your partner’s neck and gently allow your fingers to run across your partner’s earlobe.
You can also nibble or use your lips like a suction over a certain portion of your partner’s skin when you are gaining momentum kissing.
Many women love sensual kisses on their necks. Besides causing a tingling sensation for your partner, this type of kiss also arouses the mind with a whiplash of thoughts that spark anticipation and get you deeper into the act both physically and emotionally.
4. The Explorer Kiss
The explorer, also referred to as the “curious kiss,” is a technique often used on a date. It’s typically a goodnight kiss that quietly asks, “What’s next?”
While fueled by attraction, it isn’t usually a long kiss. When implemented, holding hands or placing a hand around your partner’s waist is common. The explorer kiss is often used to gauge whether your date is interested in taking things to the next level.
5. Tongue Stun
The tongue stun is a kissing technique that intensifies the desire to explore the unexplored. As the name suggests, this kiss is all about how you use your tongue to excite your partner. The correct technique is to feel the tongue rather than chase the tongue.
Slowly open your mouth and let your tongue start feeling your partner’s. Ideally, the tongue stun should start with the slow intertwining of tongues and gradually pick up pace. However, if chemistry, rhythm, and desire form a sensually holy alliance, you may find yourself on the moon with an unforgettable experience and lingering sensation.
6. The Inverted Kiss
The inverted kiss also referred to as the “upside-down kiss,” is popular with lovers. Also known as the Spiderman kiss, this 180-degree variation adds a great deal of sensual fervor to your kissing game.
When your partner rests their head on your lap, you can lean over and kiss with your upper lip touching their lower lip and vice-versa.
This kiss may feel strangely unusual if you are trying it for the first time, but as you employ it subtly in your repertoire, it starts to feel natural.
7. Pleaser Teaser
The pleaser teaser is a kissing technique where you get playful and tease your partner by breaking the momentum suddenly. While your lips are locked in a kiss, pull away suddenly, look intensely into your partner’s eyes, and let out a sly smile.
As you gently feel your partner’s lower lip with your thumb, slowly part your lips and lightly clasp your partner’s upper lip. You can then brush your lips against your partner’s. This kissing technique takes anticipation to a new level and gets the hormones racing in a raging lake of fire.
8. The Bomber
The bomber is an explosive smooch that can come alive through a flutter kiss or mystical crush. This is a long, deep, and moist kiss that ignites all forms of sexual desire.
It begins with a deeply intense smooch while using your hands to explore different parts of your partner’s body.
The bomber is a bold and aggressive type of kiss that can take intimacy to a whole new level.
9. The French Kiss
Although the French kiss is one of the most popular kissing techniques with lovers, it’s also one of the most poorly executed. The tongue is the epic moment throughout the kiss. In their eagerness to feel and explore each other’s tongue while kissing, couples make a complete mess out of the French kiss, thereby making the experience ridiculously awkward rather than enjoyable.
The secret to a perfect French kiss is fitting the jigsaw to rhythm and response. Rather than trying to dominate, each partner should respond naturally to the other’s movements. The tongue action is all about responding to your partner’s tongue motions.
When both partners try to lead at the same time, French kissing can end up being more messy than exciting and stimulating. A circular and sideways motion works poetically well when tongues feel each other rather than collide. Sensuality, passion, warmth, desire, and simulative freedom — this kiss has it all when perfectly executed.
10. Nosy Kiss
The nosy kiss is a playful kiss. There are several variations to this kiss, and it’s often used during lighthearted moments when you are teasing or having fun with your partner.
This kiss tends to come up suddenly when you are cuddling, laughing, or sharing a funny moment with your partner.
You need to bring your faces close, and as your lips meet, rub your noses in a zig-zag motion. Women are extremely fond of this cute kiss.
11. Body Kiss (Bodzilla)
The body kiss also playfully called “Bodzilla” is a kissing technique that extends beyond the lips. During intimacy, some of the most memorable kisses are the ones that land on different parts of the body.
This style involves kissing two or three body parts in quick succession before focusing on one particular area for a longer period. As one hand runs through your partner’s hair or caresses their face, the other hand wraps around their waist. You can also kiss and lick certain body parts to enhance pleasure.
To create different sensations, vary pressure and pace in different positions. Ear lobes, the neck, shoulders, back, inner thighs, and calves often respond well to gentle, attentive kisses. If you’re naturally creative and responsive to your partner, body kisses can become an exciting part of intimacy.
Tips to Be a Better Kisser
- Keep your partner involved while kissing
- Pay attention to your partner and know when to command and respond while kissing
- Use your tongue when it’s needed and use it to feel
- Amalgamate your kissing routine with your partner’s
- Do not focus heavily on a kissing style or technique, let the kiss be a natural extension of you
- Avoid planning specific styles or techniques before kissing your partner
- You can only get better every time you kiss
- A gentle nibble is better than a hard bite on the upper or lower lip
- Being instinctive while kissing takes intimacy to a new level
- Do what feels good and go with the flow
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How Should I Kiss?
When you want to get intimate, it’s wise to start slow. Do not rush into things. Do not get forceful when you start kissing. Let one act lead to another. It’s wise to begin with just holding your partner around the neck or waist and letting your fingers do a little exploring while you use your charm with words.
Many men prefer to go straight for the lips, while many women enjoy a slower build-up. A woman often appreciates tender kisses combined with gentle touches along her face and neck. Likewise, many men enjoy having their jawline touched while being kissed.
Relax when you kiss your partner. Soft, sensual kisses are an excellent way to explore intimacy. Don’t rush as you become more comfortable with each other. Begin gently and allow the moment to develop naturally.
Using Your Lips Correctly While Kissing
A mistake individuals make while kissing is not understanding how much pressure to use. The extent of pressure exerted while kissing can turn on or turn off your partner. Do not go heavy on the lips.
Keep in mind that lips should be kissing lips, not trying to consume them. Some people, particularly men, become overly enthusiastic and try and gobble every inch of a woman’s lip or tongue with their eyes closed. Wake up!
You do not want your lips at war with your partner’s. A softer approach is usually far more effective. Allow your lips to explore your partner’s with gentle kisses that alternate between the upper and lower lip. A tender nibble on the lower lip or earlobe can also fuel passion and excitement.
As you grow more comfortable, gradually increase pressure and intensity. The dynamics of a kiss often change beautifully when it begins slowly and builds naturally. When your lips start exploring, your hands will often follow. At that point, trust the moment and go with the flow.
Don’t Underestimate the Power of a Kiss
Many couples overlook the importance of kissing and rush straight into the act. If the kisses are missing, intimacy can get boring and monotonous. You need to be creative with your kisses to ignite sensuality.
Different types of kisses awaken the heart and mind to passion and desire that take lovemaking to new heights. Kissing techniques, when implemented instinctively and inventively, bring about a mystical, sensual energy that leads to endless possibilities.
Do not overthink or analyze a technique when you are about to kiss. Every individual has their own unique kissing style. The technique that feels comfortable and natural to you will work its magic always.
There will be awkward moments while kissing, but that’s part of the learning process. You land your best kisses when you relax and enjoy the moment. Happy kissing!
Thank you for taking the time to read. It means a lot.
Ansel
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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