What makes a person attractive?
Is it all in their looks, their personality, or something else?
Looks are the most obvious form of attraction, but not the most important or the only ones that matter.
I’ve compiled a list of fifteen scientifically proven ways to be attractive that spans across physical appearance and personality.
Read on to learn about them.
Smile
Science dictates that women should smile more often. Why? Because men find this to be a very attractive quality in a woman.
Outside of that, other women find it challenging to not like a woman who smiles a lot, especially when it’s a sincere smile that spreads to her eyes. So, go ahead and find something to smile about, because people who smile often are more attractive.
Maintain white teeth
A smile is more beautiful when it shows off pearly whites. It doesn’t have to be perfect, but it shouldn’t reveal stained teeth or teeth damaged by cigarettes.
That’s a major turn off no matter who you ask.
Consume a healthy diet
Healthy people just look better as a whole. When you take good care of yourself, it shows all over your body.
You appear rested, happy, and your skin glows. You look fitter and happier, and we all love a person who looks good and feels good about themselves.
That’s the power of eating well — it can improve your confidence, which can easily change the way you look and feel about yourself as a whole.
Relax
Men, this one is for you — take a deep breath and relax.
Women are fond of men who are confident, sexy, secure, and relaxed. Men who seem uptight, on edge, or tightly wound up aren’t the ones women want to find themselves with. Why?
Because women are all of those things regularly. It does them a service to find a man who’s more relaxed and laid back to even them out.
Shave your beard
Men, you look shaggy, lazy, and far from your handsome self with your beard all over the place.
You don’t have to trade it in for a baby face. Just go for something shorter and well-maintained.
To women, an unruly beard says you have no job, and you probably don’t bathe regularly either.
Play hard to get
Ladies, this one isn’t for you. When a man finds you hard to get, he’s more likely to move on and find someone else who’s a little bit easier to obtain.
This one is for men. If you want a woman to find you more attractive, don’t play all your cards at once. Show her you are hard to get and watch as she comes crawling back to you.
Wear red lipstick
Men love red lipstick. To us, it looks chic, elegant, and sexy. If you kiss us while wearing it, we have to wear it all day long.
That reminds us of you, making us want to see you as soon as possible to be kissed again.
Skip the small talk
We all have to make small talk here and there. It’s a fact of life. Still, it’s not something that makes you seem more attractive.
If you want others to find you attractive, skip the small talk and get right to the good stuff. Whether it’s sports or unpacking your interests, talk about something deep and meaningful or fun.
Maintain a group of friends
There is something inherently attractive about a person who has a lot of quality friends.
Those who have a friend group that is small but tight or big and tight are much more attractive than those who choose to spend all their time alone.
Being alone isn’t a problem. Too much alone time says you might have some sort of personality flaw that makes it hard for others to want to spend time with you.
Don’t be a follower
No one likes a follower or crowd pleaser. We love and are drawn to natural leaders.
People are much more attractive when they show they’re leaders than when they turn out to be a follower. So, don’t be afraid to take the reins when necessary and show you can control situations.
When people can’t make a choice, make the choice. When someone needs to take over, take over.
It’s incredibly attractive.
Be funny
It’s a scientifically proven fact that both men and women consider funny people more attractive.
The more hilarious you are, the more people tend to like you. This applies to more than romantic attraction as well.
Embrace kindness
When you’re nice, you come across as more attractive to other people.
Like the old adage says, beauty is on the inside. You can be the most beautiful person on the outside, but if you aren’t nice, that beauty goes to waste.
We all love a kind, nice person more than any other type of person anyways.
Be positive
If you want to be more attractive to people, then be positive.
Not the annoying over-the-top positivity that feels fake or forced. Find the positive in situations that you might not want to as an example.
And don’t complain; no one likes a person who spends all their time complaining.
Be yourself
We all like people who are just themselves. They aren’t people-pleasers. They’re secure in their identity.
Once upon a time, I dated a Caucasian female who formed her entire identity around who she thought I wanted her to be. When I caught wind of this, my attraction to her faded.
Don’t pretend. Be yourself. You attract your most genuine tribe that way.
Get a dog
When compared to people who don’t have a dog, dog owners came across as more trustworthy, down-to-earth, and cooler.
For whatever reason, those who view dog owners as better humans are probably thinking that if a dog loves you, you must be pretty lovable.
Owning a dog is a magical experience that makes you more attractive.
Final thoughts
There you have it — fifteen scientifically backed ways to improve how attractive you are.
This list isn’t exhaustive. It’s merely a starting point for those wondering how to become more attractive without having to exert much effort.
No matter which ones you choose to adopt, you’re guaranteed to improve your overall attractiveness.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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