It’s common for women to want to get married at some point.
When a relationship has been going on for a while and doesn’t seem to be moving toward marriage, you might even start to worry, “Will he ever propose?”
The most common signs that he doesn’t want to marry you can be helpful if you’re in this situation and wondering if it’s time to reevaluate the relationship.
How quickly does a man realize he wants to get married?
A recent study found that people who had never married thought it would take them about seven months, to decide whether they were ready to marry or not.
In contrast, those who are already married reported that it took them about six months, to realize they wanted to marry their partners.
Even though your circumstance is unique to you, the research suggests that it does not take a long time for a person to decide whether they want to marry their partner.
People typically realize that they want to spend the rest of their lives with their partners around the six-month mark. This does not imply that he will propose at this time, but it does suggest that a man should know very early on whether he wants to marry his girlfriend or not
17 signs he won’t marry you.
Watch out for the following warning signs if you start to doubt the relationship and worry that he won’t marry you:
1. He doesn’t take the relationship to the next level.
When guys are interested in marriage, they will take advantage of the chance to do so. For instance, it’s normal to move in together after about a year of dating.
This could be a sign that he isn’t interested in taking the relationship to the next level.
Or, perhaps you and your partner have been together for some time but have never taken a vacation together. He won’t marry you anytime soon if he isn’t taking these steps with you.
2. You always feel unsafe and insecure.
When you meet your life partner, the relationship should make you feel safe and secure.
There is a warning sign that he won’t marry you if you constantly experience feelings of insecurity in the relationship.
3. When he only cares about his sexual needs.
This man does not intend to marry you if he uses you for sexual purposes and does not care if you enjoy it. A man who loves you and hopes to marry you will want to know how you feel and would want to satisfy you in bed.
4. If he has once stated that he will never get married.
This probably goes without saying, but if a man states that he will never get married, he is probably being truthful.
Some individuals simply do not wish to get married. It’s possible that they don’t believe marriage is necessary because they saw their parents’ marriage fail.
He probably will never get married if this is the case. Just face it, he doesn’t want to get married.
5. He downplays how serious your relationship is.
If you and he have been together for months but he tells people you aren’t that serious or doesn’t say you are dating in public, this is a clear sign he doesn’t want to marry you.
It suggests that he is not proud of the relationship, and if he is feeling this way, he probably won’t marry you in the future.
6. When you ask him about the future, he gets defensive.
It’s normal to talk about plans in a long-term relationship. When you discuss your future together, he may become enraged or defensive, indicating that he is experiencing some degree of conflict about it.
It probably indicates that he can sense that you want to talk about marriage, which puts pressure on him because he doesn’t want to marry.
7. When he keeps making excuses not to get married.
If he continues to make excuses for not getting married. However, this is a pretty clear indication that he doesn’t intend to get married if he gets a big promotion and is doing well but then makes another excuse not to.
His first justification might have been that he needed to earn more money; however, once he gets a raise, his next justification will be that he wants to own a house.
After that, he might say that he has to wait until he can afford a wedding in a different country. He is avoiding asking you to marry him by providing excuse after excuse.
8. He doesn’t talk about marriage or change the subject.
If a man knows he doesn’t want to get married but wants to stay out of a fight, he won’t talk about it at all.
Because he is aware that doing so will only irritate you, he would rather steer clear of the conversation than upset you.
9. He doesn’t seem to care about the future.
When you talk about your plans, like whether you want to go back to school or move for work, he doesn’t seem to care at all, or he makes plans for his future without including you at all.
This demonstrates that he does not consider you to be part of his long-term plan, and, likely, he will not wed you.
10. He withdraws emotionally from you.
When a man truly cares about a woman and wants her to be a part of his life forever, he will let her be close to him.
A man who is willing to be vulnerable with you sees a future with you; therefore, if he builds walls and emotionally distances himself from you, he doesn’t see you as a good wife.
11. He likes to live like a single man.
Some of them want to enjoy the freedom of being a bachelor.
One of the signs that he doesn’t want to marry you is if he still lives like he was in college, going to bars, drinking, and flirting with other women.
He might prefer to spend most of his time with guys or with single people who aren’t in a committed relationship. He just doesn’t want to settle down.
12. He proposes, but after that, he doesn’t do anything else.
As a result, he either doesn’t talk about the wedding at all or doesn’t set a date, reserve a venue, or figure out who will be at the wedding.
This suggests that he proposed because he believed it was necessary or to maintain peace, but he has no intention of actually marrying you.
13. He gives you clues that suggest he doesn’t want to marry you.
If you want to find out if he wants to marry you, listen to what he says. He probably won’t tell you straight away that he won’t marry you.
He might, for instance, make remarks about how young you two are or about not wanting to rush into a serious relationship.
14. He says he just doesn’t know if he’s ready.
Think back to the study that looked at how long it takes people to decide they want to marry their partner.
If he says he doesn’t know if he’s ready to marry you after years of being together, he probably knows you’re not the one and won’t marry you.
If he still isn’t sure, it means he doesn’t see you as his future wife. Most people know when they’re dating, around six months in.
15. When you had to keep letting him know about marriage.
If he keeps avoiding proposing, this suggests that he is just not interested.
You won’t have to force him to marry you. You won’t have to beg him with seemingly incessant hints.
16. There is no sign of you on his social media account.
It’s a good indication that he isn’t ready to commit to you if he doesn’t mention you on his account. He may want to appear single.
17. One of the most obvious signs that he doesn’t want to marry you is if he only wants to hang out with you when other friends aren’t available.
This indicates that you aren’t a priority in his life.
This man doesn’t have any plans for the future with you,
A man who has invested in his relationship will always want to prioritize his woman.
Because he doesn’t want to lose her
So if you get the impression that you aren’t a priority, he probably just wants to enjoy his time with you until he finds someone he thinks will be his long-term partner.
There’s no need to panic if you’ve been together for more than six months and haven’t received a proposal. However, if you’ve been dating for a long time and haven’t received a ring, you might be right in wondering, “Will he ever marry me?”
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