Inour day to day life, we ignore many things. Most of the time, we are not conscious of what we say, what we do and how we behave. Unconscious daily activities and its effect impact our minds and eventually it gets transferred to us and our surroundings. Here, I am going to write about 2 Cs which we should always avoid doing with our children and 2 Cs which we must do with them.
Criticism and Comparison
Criticism:
We should never criticize the ability of kids. Many times, if our kids do not meet our expectation, we immediately criticize and make them aware of our unsatisfied souls. This behavior from parents varies from person to person, culture to culture. Some of the parents whom I know, always criticize their children’s behavior and inability to do something which their parents want. I even saw them saying all negative things to their children in front of guests.
These behaviors from parents put lot of pressure on children’s mind. They feel dejected, they became silent and pressurized. While growing up, they will eventually become isolated from parents and sometimes it leads to choosing wrong path.
Comparison:
This is one of the worst things we can do with children. Constantly comparing themselves with other children. To boost their morale and get them inspired, it is good to cite some examples of good behavior or achievement. But unknowingly, we keep doing constant comparison throughout the day which breaks their confidence level. We even compare our social and economic status with others. All these inputs do get deposited in their subconscious mind and they lose their ability to excel with good confidence. We should consciously think twice what we are saying in front of kids.
Now, let’s see what the two Cs are, which we should do.
Communicate and Cheer up
Communicate :
Yes, we must communicate each and everything even since their 1st day of life. More you communicate from beginning, better will be the bonding and learning for them. We should share most of the things happening to our life and which are required for their life. In turn, they will also learn to share back. When they develop sharing their own things with their parents, that is the best thing, we as parent can cultivate on kids.
We have witnessed the increase in numbers of suicides all around the world. The victims are mostly lonely and have less or no one to share their grief and sadness. Either of the parents can be a very good friend or even both.
Cheer up:
This act of kindness from parents help children build up their confidence level. They get encouragement when their own people cheer up and stand up for what they do. There should be always a balance of cheering up and showing what wrong they do.
So, let’s have a conscious parenting minds and mold our kids to become a good human being. As we all know, children are the torchbearers of the future society, as their previous generation, it is our moral responsibility to shape up our society where we live.
Happy Parenting
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This post was previously published on Medium.com.
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