Trust is the bedrock of a relationship.
It is what determines whether or not your relationship will break down and fail or whether it will last beyond dating till marriage.
There is a whole lot that trust is doing in your relationship that you’re not aware of:
Trust allows for vulnerability and safety in a relationship.
It is on the basis of trust that you confide even your deepest secret to your girlfriend without the slightest fear that she will tell it to the world.
Trust gives reassurance.
It is on the basis of trust that you would one day get a ring without the slightest fear that she will say no when you propose.
Trust makes love thrive.
It is on the basis of trust that your relationship will last through dating till you walk her down the aisle. Why? Because without trust, it is difficult for love to thrive.
What then happens when you break your partner’s trust in a relationship?
1. Your self-confidence will drop
Having your partner doubt you is one of the worst things that can happen to you in a relationship. And it doesn’t only affect your relationship, it also affects your personal life too.
Here is how:
Our partner’s belief in us is a strong source of our self-confidence. And that self-confidence inspires us to go after our goals and dreams.
When we bring their trust we slowly start to lose confidence in ourselves, and slowly the zeal to pursue our dream starts to die a natural death.
That is what happens when the person who is supposed to be the one to believe you even when the rest of the world is against you starts to doubt you.
It’s such a shameful place to be.
Trust me.
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2. It weakens your self-control in other aspects of your life
There is one thing I have found out about life:
Everything affects everything else.
What does that mean?
A weakness in an aspect of your life will ripple across other aspects of your life. If you break your partner’s trust by having an extramarital affair, your resistance against other sins will drop. Before you know it, you will start to tell lies to your partner, make excuses at work, and make unwise financial decisions.
A weakness begets weakness.
And as the weaknesses in your life increase so does your life quality.
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3. A voice of condemnation rises and will keep shouting down your sense of uprightness
As a result, you will lose your right to correct a wrong
Yeah, sure you do.
Because an offender has no right to correct a wrong.
Even if you see your partner doing something you don’t like, something just shuts your mouth. Like, your partner doesn’t even need to say it. Deep down, you can’t see yourself correcting or condemning a wrong because you are guilty of one.
This can lead to a loss of self-respect in your relationship.
For the sake of God, be honorable.
Stay away from anything that can break the trust in your relationship.
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Thanks for your time.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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