You have been crushing on her for some time. Now, you finally summoned the courage to ask her out.
She asked you to give her some time to think about it.
One month passed, and she hasn’t given you an answer. Two months, three, four, then fifth.
She came over one evening to say hi.
When the time came for her to go home, she asked you to come closer. She whispers a yes in your ears.
Wow!
It was a dream come through!
You’re finally dating someone who means the world to you. Not just that, the love is mutual. She loves you deeply. She told her friends and family about you. You both want the love to continue till you grow old.
In that case,
You have some work.
As the man, there are a few things you must be careful never to do to her. Else, the love she has for you can gradually turn into hatred. And your love story may not survive beyond dating.
“What are those things?”
You may ask.
I’m glad you’re interested.
Actually, there are several. But here are the three most common:
1. Treating other ladies better
To a large extent, your girlfriend is the MVL (most valued lady) in your life. And so deserves the best treatment. Giving her nothing less than the best makes her feel at home with you, assures her you want to keep her, and thus inspires her to commit to the relationship.
Treating other ladies better than she invites troubles into your relationship. It infects her psychology. It tells her you don’t deem her worthy, that she’s not so important and that losing her won’t be a big deal. And it is one of the most regrettable feelings there is.
- Do you give other ladies more attention? Do you spend more money on other ladies than your girlfriend? Are you more interested in their success than that of your girlfriend?
Stop it.
It will corrupt the love she has for you.
2. Telling her flaws to your friends
We all have an image to protect. Your girlfriend too. She’s got an image to protect. Having that image protected earns her the respect she has among her friends.
Unfortunately, some men are fond of telling their friends about relationship issues. Most times, they bring out the lady’s flaws and hide theirs to look good.
As far as your friends are concerned, your lady is flawless until you reveal those flaws in them.
The moment you tell your friend that she snores at night, wakes up late, is not good in bed, is lazy, and has a problem in her family, and all that shit, they will lose that respect for her. And even make fun and mockery of her when you’re not there. If you ask me, nothing is more disrespectful.
Ladies hate this with passion.
- Do you always complain to your friends about your girlfriend?
Stop it.
It devalues her dignity.
Some issues in a relationship are essentially private — known only to the partner involved. Keep them private.
3. Comparing her with your ex
This is quite one of the most irritating things some men do ladies hate.
I made this mistake once.
That night, she made a certain soup.
It was delicious “ but not as delicious as Precious (my ex) does it.”
She quietly left the dining table.
It took my sincere apologies and promises it’ll never happen again before she agreed to ever cook in my house.
Comparing your lady with your ex sends the wrong signals. It is petty, hurtful, and childish. It makes her feel less of herself, unappreciated, and that she is not good enough for you.
Don’t compare.
- Teach her to dress better, cook better, talk more fluently, and then accept her uniqueness.
Comparison is the thief of joy.
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