There is often a time in women’s lives when their love interest, partner or potential partner became cold and uninterested. One day your partner looks attracted to and committed to you, and the next he seems to be looking for ways to avoid you. All of a sudden, he seems aloof when you try to hang out together, or pulls away when you want to talk. If you’ve ever experienced a man pulling away or losing interest, you know how painful that feeling can be. If you’re wondering why this happens, we’ve got you covered.
1. He Can’t Handle Strong Emotions, Especially about Love
Perhaps you keep your cool when meeting a new guy because you have nothing to lose emotionally. But after dating for a period, you and your partner are likely to develop an emotional connection. Often, when this happens, you start expressing how you really feel. Men begin to take notice of how rapidly the status of the relationship evolves from casual to serious. After realizing this, men will sometimes freeze and retreat. This does not mean you should not be emotional or express how you feel. But be wary of coming across as pushing him to express emotions when he is not yet ready to do so.
2. The Unease You Experience
If you’re the type of woman who nags your partner about women all the time and/or who continuously monitors him and his phone, he will know that you’re insecure. If you pry too deeply into your partner’s personal life, in ways that make him feel uncomfortable and like you are crossing boundaries, he may decide to leave you. Instead of crossing his boundaries, consider creating your own — and if something is really a dealbreaker, then understand the relationship is probably not right for either of you. Everyone in a relationship should be able to develop all kinds of relationships with others without their partner feeling jealous or afraid.
3. Your Demeanor Suggests Desperation
There’s a chance that your partner is drifting apart because you’re not emotionally prepared for the relationship. For instance, if you’re feeling down in the dumps, you may treat your partner like the only thing that can cheer you up. Your partner should support you, of course — but you should also be able to survive and thrive without them. Otherwise, it comes across as smothering behavior which others may see as problematic.
4. You Gave Up Too Soon
Finding a rhythm of a relationship that works for both people takes time, thoughtfulness and a give and take. A relationship takes open and honest communication, and a vulnerability from both partners in sharing your hopes, dreams, desires and fears. All of that takes time — and different people have different timelines to get there. If you give up on the relationship too soon, you may miss out on something great just because the other person isn’t on the same timeline as you. Note that this is different than ignoring red flags which may put you in emotional or physical danger. If there are red flags, you should be the one leaving.
Put the work into co-creating a great relationship with your partner. One that explores intimacy and closeness together.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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