No relationship is immune to breakup.
All you need is the wrong actions to a situation and slowly your relationship will start breaking before your very eyes. And you start wondering why you’re unlucky with women.
A friend lost a 5 years promising relationship to pride. A relationship where he was the man, respected, supported and literally worshiped. The last time I saw him his life is quite the opposite of how it was with his soul mate now her ex.
If you don’t treat your woman well, you’ll lose her. And trust me someone is out there waiting to receive her with open arms.
So don’t play.
If you find a woman who loves you for who you are, adores you, laughs at your jokes, sees you as her lord as the scripture admonishes supports you, and believes in your dreams, please let her know that she is your greatest blessing in life.
If you lose her by ignorance like many men do, your life may never remain the same and you won’t forgive yourself.
But what does it take to not lose your soul mate?
Understanding.
If you understand women better, you’ll have a better relationship than when you don’t.
Success is not by accident.
A successful marriage is not by accident. It comes about by understanding a woman’s psychology and using that knowledge to guide your actions, attitude, and behavior around her.
That is what it takes to have a strong relationship.
Most men lose their relationships because they don’t understand women. And here are three of the most common:
1. How she loves to be treated by her man
You must know this.
Every lady desires pampering.
Even when she’s an adult, she craves being pampered. She will love you for it.
Before now, I don’t send morning texts asking my girlfriend about her night. I felt like “Yeah, why would I be asking if she slept well, how her day was going, what she is having for breakfast, and what color of dress she was wearing today…”
In my mind, that’s absolutely childish.
Is she a child?
Now I know why we had a lot of issues.
Things are better now.
Now I know how much those little things matter to a woman. No matter how old a monkey is, banana is still her favorite food. In the same way, no matter how old a woman is, pampering is still her favorite treat.
- Do you call to ask how her night went? What is she having for breakfast? When is she going to the office? The dress she is wearing? When she sends a picture of herself, do you offer a generous compliment? If not, start today. It will keep issues away from your relationship.
Next,
2. Even when she knows what to do, she will ask for your opinion
“Josh, I noticed an unfamiliar sound from the side of my car yesterday while driving. I have called my engineer about it and he asked me to bring it. Should I take it to him or should I forget about it?”
In my head:
“Of course, isn’t that what you should do? Do you want to wait till the car can’t move anymore?”
That’s how women are.
Most times they ask the obvious not because they don’t know what to do. All they need is your opinion. They just want to hear the sound of your voice. Nothing more.
Just second her opinion.
And do it with a smile.
Next,
3. Most times all she needs from you is just to listen. Nothing more.
Unfortunately, some men don’t know it. Instead, they want to fix the problem just to keep her mouth shut.
And that is the opposite of what she wants.
Women are different from men.
If a man discusses a problem, his sole aim is so he get a solution from his partner or peers. And when he gets it, he feels better, fulfilled, and relieved.
That is not so for women.
More often than not, the reason she is discussing a problem with you is so that you will sit right there, drop what you are doing, really listen to her talk, and don’t offer any unsolicited advice.
Just listen.
For ladies, listening sympathetically is therapeutic. She feels heard, loved, valued, and important to you. So before you try to help, which you are naturally inclined to, try to really listen.
Understand this as a man and what your personal life and marriage/relationship get so much better!
4. “I’m sorry” goes a long way.
You can’t be perfect.
Offenses can’t be avoided in a relationship. Sometimes you could hurt her feelings without even realizing it.
In those circumstances, don’t subscribe to the doctrine of men who believe saying I’m sorry is a sign of weakness. If you are listening to such podcasts, do everything else they tell you except that.
It can run your relationship faster than you can imagine.
It ruined my friend’s five-year relationship. Had he just told his girlfriend, “ Babe, I’m so sorry to have not let you know that I was leaving the country next month?”
As inconsiderate as his action was, she would have forgiven him. I know her. But he chose to be a man who can’t tell a woman sorry when he is wrong.
He lost the relationship.
That is how she slipped out of his hands.
Don’t make the same mistake:
If you’re wrong, accept it and say “I’m sorry” and mean it. A little I’m sorry covers a multitude of sins.
If you understand women better, you will have better relationships.
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Thanks for your time.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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