4 Weird Tricks That Make You Instantly Attractive

Amateurs believe attraction is left to chance.

They believe each person has unique preferences and you can’t please everyone. You don’t control what you feel, so trying to look attractive is a waste of time. It’s best to let destiny choose your fate: if a person is right for you, it’ll happen naturally.

These people suffer because they never find love (or when they do, it’s the wrong person). They’re powerless.

Powerful people would never let their love life to chance.

They use every tool available to achieve their goals. Their love life is no exception. It’s not that they manipulate others. But they’re assertive in their actions, and that’s magnetic. You can’t ignore them.

Powerful people know attraction isn’t random. Even better: they know how you can fabricate it.

These tricks are unconventional, but they work. When done properly, you can take control over your love life and attract the person you want.

Here are four curious tricks to make you more attractive:

1. Have many friends.

People are more attractive when they’re in a group.

It’s called the cheerleader effect: when you see a group, you think people there are more attractive. But when you look at each person individually, they’re pretty average. So the group makes you more attractive.

Here’s why this happens: your asymmetries blend in with the group. When people look from the outside, they see the average group face. Your face will look similar to this group average (which is more attractive than the individual).

So if you have a weird face, it’ll look less weird because of the average.

It doesn’t mean everyone in the group is unattractive. But being in a group makes them more attractive.

What do to:

Use the power of the group to your advantage. Next time you meet your crush, be in a group.

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Here are a few ways you can invest in group activities:

Practice sports (like the cheerleaders).
Go to a bar with friends: bars are great places to meet people. So always go in a group.
Use social media to your advantage: post more pictures with your friends and fewer selfies.

We are social creatures, and we behave like a herd of sheep: we imitate others. When your crush sees you have many friends, they might think, “if others like this person, I may want to know them too.”

2. Do something scary.

This is the weirdest trick but stay with me (I promised weird tricks, didn’t I?).

Adrenaline and attraction affect each other. When you experience high levels of adrenaline, it makes you bond quickly.

So if you do something scary together, you’ll bond faster.

Don’t get me wrong: you shouldn’t wear a Halloween costume to scare your crush. You also shouldn’t run unnecessary risks (like going to dangerous places) for the sake of bonding.

But do you know in movies, when a couple goes through a crazy situation and suddenly realizes they like each other? It turns out the adrenaline made them attractive.

If you want to become attractive, use these emotions in your favor.

What to do:

Plan dates with lots of emotion. There’s nothing wrong with the traditional date plans (dinner, drinks, or maybe a movie). But if you do the same as everyone, you’ll never stand out.

Use adrenaline to make an impression on your date.

Here are some unique date ideas to make you bond with your crush:

Skiing.
Escape room.
Bungee jumping.
Don’t be afraid to try something different.

3. White teeth.

“You can only care for your look from the outside” is a lie. Attractiveness is more complex than that, and there are multiple ways to work on yourself (not all of them are limited to your looks).

White teeth make you attractive (as long as it looks natural).

You may say, “white teeth are not inner qualities; that’s your looks.” And you’re right. But there’s a catch. It’s not what makes you attractive; it’s why.

White teeth are attractive because they make you look healthy.

White teeth are a sign of good health. And we’re attracted to healthy people.

This idea makes perfect sense. You can’t be attractive if you don’t feel well. And you can’t feel well if you’re not healthy. So your health is the core of your attractiveness.

You can’t separate your looks from how you feel.

What to do:

You know you should care for your health (everybody does). But now you have an extra motivation: to look attractive.

Health is attractive, and that’s not limited to your teeth.

Here are a few things you can do:

Take daily walks.
Drink more water.
Schedule a check-up with your doctor to balance vitamins and hormones.

Caring for your health is a long-term project, but it’s a great investment in yourself and your love life.

4. Low lights.

Do you ever notice how people look better at night? Like when you’re at a nightclub, and you think everyone looks great. Suddenly, the lights are on, and everybody looks miserable.

It wasn’t magic (nor the drinks). It was the light.

Your environment dictates how attractive you are. Soft lights make you more attractive. Imagine a candle-light dinner. Romantic, isn’t it? The light can turn an ordinary event (like a meal) into something incredibly romantic.

The right light can change the way you look. So use it in your favor to be more attractive.

What to do:

Schedule your next date at night so you can use the lights to your advantage.

Here are a few ideas:

Bars.
Movie theater.
Candle-light dinner (a classic, but it works).

Your date will think you’re attractive and romantic.

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You can’t control the world, but you can control how attractive you are. These tricks aren’t meant to manipulate your crush. They should make you feel confident, so you can get what you want.

There’s one big catch: you have to feel comfortable with these tricks. So if you don’t enjoy bungee jumping, don’t force it. People can tell when you feel stressed (and that’s far from attractive). You’ll never look attractive if you feel uncomfortable.

Take what works for you and ignore what doesn’t.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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