Ava thought she’d found her ideal man.
She knew it … with him feels like “home.” she won’t have to chase after him because he’s not the one to play mind games.
She felt excited. She had finally found her Mr right, and the thought of seeing him again made her heart skip a beat and felt so nervous.
She brewed a cup of evening tea. Then decided to give the relationship her all. She felt so elated with her newfound love.
But something happened along the way.
Ava feels disappointed. Her relationship doesn’t seem to be that great. Where has her exciting feeling gone?
Why is her relationship feeling like hell even though she did all she has to do?
Why does she feel tortured emotionally in her relationship?
Why is she feeling lonely in her relationship?
We’ve all been there. We think our relationship is good, but then get disappointed when our partners behave mysteriously to show that they’re emotionally immature.
But don’t despair. A few small things tell about a terrible or emotionally immature man.
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1. You feel more alone than ever
Feeling lonely is not just emotionally reserved for those who are single or alone. But those in a messy relationship too.
Why? Because if you’re unable to participate in emotional intimacy with your partner, by having meaningful conversations that go beyond the aforementioned surface level and interactions leave you then you’ll feel disconnected and lonely.
If you often feel alone, or like your needs and desires are not attended to then is often a sign that you’re in a relationship with an emotionally immature man.
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2. You don’t feel supported
The best thing about relationships is that we can always rely on each other for support.
That’s why nothing beats being in a relationship where both partners actively listen to each other’s needs, care about and encourage each other’s goals and dreams, challenge each other to be their best selves, stand by each other, and create space for each other to grow as individuals.
However, if your partner always avoids difficult conversations, minimizes or invalidates your feelings, never shows interest in your goals, and even disappears when things get tough, then it’s likely that they are emotionally immature.
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3. You don’t feel heard and seen
As discussed humans, we all desire to be heard. It started when we are still infants we needed our guardian to hear our cries for support.
The important piece of this early scene is not what our guardian did or said in response to our communication, but rather whether we were heard at all.
That’s why nothing is more upsetting than trying to communicate your feelings or thoughts to your partner only to encounter resistance or defensiveness.
And most people Instead of being in a relationship where everyone can genuinely feel heard, seen, and understood, they, unfortunately, find themselves in dispassionate and even dysfunctional relationships that lack open communication, mutual understanding, and a sense of connectedness.
So when your partner finds it difficult to give their undivided attention and even listen wholeheartedly to you, then he is emotionally immature.
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4. your relationship is full of drama
When your relationship is as if both you and your partner feel like you both have to walk on eggshells in fear of upsetting each other then you’re probably with an emotionally immature man.
Because when you’re with an emotionally immature person, the balance of your relationship is thrown off because even the smallest criticism sets them off and before you know it they’ll make excuses, call you names, and act as if you’re trying to hurt them.
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5. You got blamed for everything
When talking about the signs of an emotionally immature partner, getting blamed for everything or shafting blame should not be omitted from the list.
As everyone will want their relationship to thrive, taking responsibility for your actions is one the basic thing one could do because It makes it easier to address and move past any hurdles in your relationship.
Because nothing is more romantic than acknowledging when you mess up, followed by sincerely apologizing in order to make amends.
So, if you’re frequently blamed for your partner’s mistakes and misfortunes, you’re probably with an immature partner, because an immature partner is unlikely to admit when they’ve messed up and may even try to blame others.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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