I had to limit this list to 5 because I’m in a time crunch, but if we’re being honest, this list could go on for a few lengthy miles.
Sure, you might think I’m overreacting, but am I really? It feels like men want to piss us off sometimes.
I’m sure any man listening to me right now would stand up and say, “well, you do things that piss us off too! Your arguments are almost always illogical.”
Case and point, yet again one more reason they make us frustrated. They think we are illogical. We’re not; in fact, we’re very much so logical. Needless to say, all of this is simply part of life, and often the price we have to pay when we decide to share our life with someone, personalities clash, miscommunication occurs, etc.
When I first started living with my partner, I remember calling my mom and telling her every little thing that was frustrating me, after multiple attempts at trying to calm me down, she finally told me something that has always stuck with me,
No guy or relationship will ever be 100% perfect. The goal is to find someone that has 80% of the qualities you like, and help them with the remaining 20%.
I genuinely believe that is why my mindset shifted so drastically about relationships, instead of heading out the door after every little argument, I paused and took a step back to analyze the situation.
With that being said, here are 5 things that men do that will annoy (almost) every woman.
Tries to put things into the wrong places.
Did you think I was being dirty here? *wink wink*
I’m talking about physical things. Like, clothing, dishes, maybe even his post-shower towel.
Haven’t you ever worked so hard on something, like organizing the kitchen cabinets, for instance, only to have your partner ‘help’ by unloading the dishwasher and put everything in the wrong places?
Maybe it’s just me, but I’m pretty intense when it comes to things going back to where they belong. While my partner is always eager to help clean the house, he rarely puts things back in their rightful place.
You’ll often find mugs and glasses where the bowls are, his socks will often be in the underwear drawer despite me organizing them separately every time I do laundry, and his towel is almost always on the bed.
Men, this makes us frustrated. We work hard to keep the house neat and tidy, and it’s annoying as hell that we live in the same space for x amount of years, and you still don’t know that the mugs go into the cabinet above our Nespresso machine, not in the cabinet with our bowls and plates.
Wants to eat unhealthy when we’re trying to eat healthy.
This is one of my biggest issues with my partner, partially because he burns calories just by breathing, and me? Well, I gain weight just by browsing through Yelp.
We get it, you can eat 10x more than us and still look good, but for those of us who do have to work for our bodies and calorie-count and workout until we bleed sweat, well, we’d really appreciate it if you didn’t bring that tub of Ben & Jerrys to the couch every night.
There’s a time and place for everything, and I’m all for treating myself, but you treat yourself every single night, and temptation is a real thing.
Let’s face it, if you’re trying to live a healthy lifestyle while your partner is okay with eating junk, the majority of the time, you’re going to end up eating junk too. It’s a lot easier to give in, especially when it’s sitting right next to you.
Men, help us — help you. You don’t need to eat junk around the clock; in fact, starting a healthy lifestyle together can be a good thing for your relationship. It’ll help you both learn discipline and make you feel better about yourself from the inside out.
“Nothing is wrong. I’m just upset for no reason.”
How many times have you come home to your partner — or hold on, this is even worst, how many times have you met up with your partner for a date perhaps, and he’s upset and says,
“Nothing is wrong.”
So… you just woke up flustered? You’re walking around looking like you want to punch a wall because it was nice and sunny out?
We get it; as a guy, you’re trained that talking about your problems is a sign of weakness. However, open communication is one of the most critical aspects of a relationship. Even if you’re trying to protect us by not being negative or bringing the energy down, you make us feel irrelevant and unvalued by shutting us out.
We’re here to help you deal with life’s punches just as much as you’re here to help us — this is a partnership. That means I’m here to listen when shit hits the fan.
The next time something bad happens, talk about it. You’d be surprised by how relieving it feels to open up and talk to someone who is solely on your side.
Chatting with other females over social media.
“Hey Petunia, yeah, I’m doing great. How are you? Coffee sounds good! Maybe next week?”
Maybe this is controversial, but this bothers me to no end. I’ve dated guys before that would have “casual” conversations with females over Instagram and Facebook before, and I’m not a fan. Why put yourself in a situation that could inevitably lead to an argument or even misunderstanding with your partner?
How would you feel if I constantly had conversations with John, James, and Bob all the time? Probably not all that great. I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with having friends of the opposite sex, but why are you spending your free time telling Ashley about your day when your girlfriend is sitting at home waiting for you to get dinner?
I read an article published in Psychology Today that 64% of men and 44% of women reported that their cross-sex friends became their sexual partners.
Look, I get it. There are faithful guys out there; it’s a free country, do your thing — but set boundaries. And ask your partner if this is something that bothers them because up until my current partner, this was a problem that always led to breakups or massive arguments.
There’s nothing wrong with respectfully telling your partner that you’re not okay with them constantly conversing with people of the opposite sex online. If they truly love you and are serious about your relationship, they will be okay with compromising.
“Babe, I totally forgot we had plans tonight; I already promised the boys we’d play GTA.”
As if the reason isn’t obvious, it’s pretty infuriating to have to feel like your partner would rather play video games than spend time with you.
I’ve always had a thing against guys playing video games, partially because I think that when you enter your 20s, it’s time to put down the controller — and start getting to work.
Also, I dated a guy who was obsessed with two things: guy night and game night. After that, I made it a priority to always make sure my partner wasn’t into gaming after that; sorry, just not my thing. I’m not here to mommy you and tell you it’s time to go to bed after 10 hours of you playing video games.
As for you forgetting about our plans — screw that; you didn’t forget about our plans; you bypassed them. You telling us that you “forgot” makes us feel less important, and if you honestly did forget, then be a man and cancel on your boys so that we could go on our date — as we originally planned.
Your boys will understand, especially if you’re in a serious relationship. Remember, it’s all about your priorities.
These are just 5 of the many things that will piss off (almost) any woman.
It’s not that we’re picky or irrational; it’s just that we know what we want in a man, and we refuse to settle. We notice these things; we’re women. We have needs, just like you have yours. We expect you to prioritize us, stay committed, and help make our lives easier, just like we do for you.
Everybody’s list is different, and it’s 100% okay to respectfully talk to your partner about any of these things if they annoy you. So have at it; who knows, maybe you’ll open up a line of communication that the both of you have been putting off.
This post was previously published on Medium.
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