There are many men that are good looking, charming . They seemed loved by women at the beginning.
All of a sudden they discover a change in character or the way she treats them. Some men wonder if it’s a mood swing.
Others feel it’s because the woman wants him to chase her. But in reality, you are likely to have given a wrong impression about yourself.
You might think you’re amusing and interesting to be around. But being amusing and interesting might one way or the other be counting against you.
This impression can be as a result of what you say, your action or reaction. There are many things some buys say that turn women off and make them to lose interest in them:-
1. Seriously “Not All men are like that”
This usually comes up when a woman tries to treat we men on the basis of the negative experience she has had in the past.
Women think you’re just trying to defend yourself or trying to be unique anytime you say that expression.
Ultimately what a woman expects you to do is show care, empathy and emotional maturity.
Instead of defending, just listen to her, show empathy and care, show you’re different with your deeds, actions and reaction not in words alone.
2. I think “You’re Over thinking It”
Whenever a woman complains about something that displeases her either about herself, her place of work or your relationship. You shouldn’t tell her she’s over thinking it.
Instead give her assurance, don’t let her feel she’s overreacting, invalidated or dismissed. She just wants to feel heard and understood.
Show her you’re open smd you care about how she feels. Listen to her first, and bear it anyway if it comes, even if I’m reality she’s over thinking things or overreacting, never say it.
Then gradually work with her on the way forward so she can feel assured and secured.
3. I love you because “you’re different from other girls”
Although men always want this compliment to make their women feel good and unique, unfortunately it only always has a negative effect.
This invariably means that when a woman is like other women, it’s a bad thing. This implies you have a generalized negative belief about women, and only respect her because you feel she’s different.
Instead of falling into this popular trap, rather tell her directly how she’s unique instead of blackmailing her gender.
For example:
“I feel you’re special because you also play football”
“I Love your natural look, you don’t have to wear make ups”
4. Baby Please “Relax or Calm down”
This is usually said casually to keep a woman down. Especially when she’s angry or eager to express herself. But most women don’t like it.
This immediately suggests the woman being addressed has emotional issues. It’s condescending and abasing!
Because it makes women feel unheard and misunderstood. Which usually makes women feel frustrated and turned off.
Women love to stay where they have an opinion, where they are heard and understood.
Find a way of handling her emotions without belittling her with condescending comments.
5. So, “are you single?”
It’s better you get to know a woman first before having it in mind if she’s someone you can enter a relationship with.
Most men ask women if they are single and are open for a relationship on the first date or even the first discussion. While this helps to save time. It’s wrong!
Don’t ask too early, engage her in genuine conversation first. If she’s interested or open to a relationship.
It will naturally come up. Let getting to know her be your first priority. Don’t rush things!
Just let things work out naturally without asking if she’s single on the first date or conversation.
Final Thoughts
Looks alone don’t win women. In fact it’s about what you say to them or how you treat them. Just the same way you care about how you look to be attractive to women, start caring about what you say too and how you say it.
Who knows that might be the only thing you have to work on to be the woman magnet you want to be.
A little shift in the way you relate or talk to women can be the magic wand you need. And women will respond and reciprocate by responding differently too.
Listen more and talk less, show empathy and calmness. This way a woman will naturally open the door of her heart to you.
To your dating success!
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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