I was listening to a young lady on the radio discuss how much she hated getting sexy for her husband. She mentioned that her husband tried to ease her into it by offering to take pictures of her or plan a photoshoot. She totally despised both options. Her main issue was feeling as though the spotlight was on her, making the entire process difficult and uncomfortable. “Why does it even matter, “she asked. I wanted to call in and answer, “because it is fun, playful and flirty!”
When we are single and looking to mingle, every outfit, even without realizing it is to grab a little attention. There are times that we even strategically pair clothing to enhance our best assets. When a compliment it presented we feel a sense of success. A simple thank you with a smile can be a tiny bit of flirting, which is totally fine. I believe that flirting comes naturally for some. When you’re feeling good it tends to show in the way you talk, walk, sit stand and interact. All of these are a part of the chemistry that flows between us, which leads to deeper interest.
Once one discovers that the inner you is as amazing as your outer appearance, the dynamic changes. You create a space that only the two of you will fill, in the most intimate fashion. You now have expectations and fulfillments that will challenge your identity. The most important aspect to remember is that deciding to be in a relationship comes with trust and understanding. Who you were and what you like and dislike will be altered to define what works.
If the spouse is interested in seeing his wife in sexy lingerie and she simply can’t see herself stepping outside of her comfort zone, it’s important to make her feel comfortable and not pressured.
- Give her compliments about specific body parts.
- Touch, kiss and flirt with her a little more.
- Tell her how sexy she looks in plain clothing.
- Offer to shop for sexy lingerie with her.
- Don’t purchase a beautiful piece for her and ask her to put it on just before sexy time; this can kill the mood.
Women who don’t naturally feel sexy can overcome this; they just need to feel empowered and confident. Letting go of what is appropriate and inappropriate is the key. It would help to remember that they’re no longer the shy little girl who was taught to act like a lady. They’ve become a SEXY adult without limits in the bedroom. Viewing your space as a place to be free, become, and be you can silence that inner voice awakening adventure calming those fears. Besides, the spouse is confident in all that she has to give; that’s why he fell in love and is prepared to explore and grow the relationship with intimate experiences.
I like to call the female body a work of art, a masterpiece to be adored and respected. It’s soft to the touch. It moves like sound waves. It can grab your attention in an unintended moment. It speaks without being spoken to. It’s colorful no matter the race, size, nationality or background. It can silence a room or make it sing. When she realizes how artistically amazing she is, she will burst out of her shell and own her beauty. She will rise above and make decisions that will forever result in fulfillment and enjoyment.