My husband and I have been happily married for nine years and have been together for almost fifteen. We were college sweethearts. Three children later, romance can get pretty low on the priority list. Romance is one of those things that, for me at least, translates into a higher sex drive. I’d venture to say many women feel the same way. There are many ways to express romance, and in turn, to drive your woman wild. Here are five ways to do that.
1. Get down on your hands and knees… and wash the floors.
There’s nothing sexier to a woman than watching a man get down and dirty… to clean house.
My husband sometimes jokes that there’s nothing sexier to a woman than a man wearing rubber gloves. He says this because every time he’s donned rubber gloves to clean the house, I’ve found a way to distract him from his work.
Helping around the house is a given when you’re married, but sometimes going the extra mile, especially if your wife is a stay-at-home mom, can show her how much you appreciate everything she does on a daily basis. It’s often a thankless job, housework. But you might just get thanked in a pretty awesome way if you go the extra mile to help out.
I’m not guaranteeing results, but I’m pretty sure she’ll be happy if she’s not the one to sweep under the baby’s chair for the seventh time today.
2. Do something totally romantic… on a totally random day.
Feeling romanced makes a woman feel loved. And feeling loved often leads to wanting some lovin’.
If you’ve been married for a while, and especially if you have children, chances are, the romance might have gotten lower on the priority list. Which is why doing something awesomely romantic for your partner is even more important.
The definition of a romantic gesture varies widely from woman to woman, but as her partner, you probably know what your lady’s desires might be. If not, just ask her. She’ll probably tell you.
Increasing the romance in the relationship makes both partners feel loved, and a great side effect of feeling loved and heard, is that you both start noticing (again) all the great things about each other… physical and otherwise. For my husband and me, anyway, this leads to wanting to express that appreciation in a physical way.
3. While she’s doing dishes, hug her from behind, and whisper in hear ear… that there’s a glass of wine and a box of fine chocolates by the TV. “Go relax, honey; you deserve it. I got the dishes.”
Because doing her chores will make her want to do you.
Most women work hard. Working women have double shifts (outside the home/at home), and stay-at-home moms often feel unappreciated for all the hard work they put in. Doing a little thing like telling her that she deserves a little rest and relaxation with no strings attached, can show her how much you truly appreciate everything she does. This can feel very romantic. Feeling romanced leads to feeling loved, and feeling loved… (see above).
4. Write a letter describing everything you love about her personality… and mail it.
Opening the mailbox to find your words will make her want to open your robes.
Did you write letters to your wife at the beginning of your relationship? When was the last time you wrote her a letter (not an email, a real letter?)
Back in 1999, we were so excited to get email. Now, email is so prevalent, we don’t care about getting it anymore, but a snail-mail letter… that’s pretty awesome. It’s also totally unexpected.
Since you live with her, she probably wouldn’t guess you’d mail a letter. That kind of small little surprise can speak volumes to the fact that you’re thinking about her and that you’re concocting ways to put a smile on her face.
Often times, just knowing you’re thinking about her can help her think even more about you… and want to express that in a physical way.
5. Ask her to wear something nice, because you have a surprise. Then make her dinner, and sit down to it wearing a suit.
Because seeing a man in a suit sure makes a woman want to see his birthday one.
There’s just something about a man in a suit. Most women find it very sexy, which is odd since that’s about the most covered up you can usually be as a Western man.
Maybe that’s what women like about it, the slight mystery… and the fact you bothered to tie a tie to impress us? Whatever it might be, cooking her a nice dinner and having a nice “night in” costs very little, and goes a long way to show that you are thinking of her. And who knows, it might lead to a very nice dessert indeed.
It all comes down to adding more romance into your life, and noticing the little things she does. Because when she notices you noticing her, you look hot, baby! And when you look hot… she’s hot…And when she’s hot… so is the bedroom.
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