This blog post is based on my opinions thoughts and thinking.
There are a lot of things that can affect the state of a relationship.
But what happens when, after years of dedication and effort, one partner or the other feels like they’re losing interest in their spouse or partner?
This can be hard on either party, and it’s important to keep trying to make things work because you never know how anything might change.
It might not have been love that was present before, but rather just boredom with each other.
I know, I know, it’s hard to believe that love can ever fade or become boring.
But it can happen, and that’s why you have to keep trying, or else you might just find yourself calling an attorney.
We need to work hard together if we want our relationship to be healthy.
Let’s take a look at 6 simple ways to keep the relationship alive…
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1. Keep communication open.
So many people go through life with closed doors, and most of the time it’s because they don’t feel any need to talk.
Things don’t have to be an all-out battle between the two of you; if you both are willing to talk things over, then there’s no reason why you can’t be friends again.
Don’t ignore each other, even if it is just a text.
I know this is hard because you feel like you might be wasting your time.
But the fact is that when you avoid a problem, you are often causing it to get bigger and bigger.
Don’t let it get to a point where it causes too much stress and tension.
The more open communication there is between the two of you, the better your relationship will be.
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2. Just try to understand each other’s point of view.
There are a lot of people who are just so set in their ways that they refuse to budge.
If you want to avoid a lot of pain, then you need to be willing to understand the other person’s position on things.
We all have different likes and dislikes, but if you love each other, you should be able to work with those differences rather than against them.
I know, this is not an easy thing for anyone, including myself.
But it’s hard not to be angry when you can’t see the other person’s point of view.
Trust me, if you don’t try to understand the other person’s viewpoint, they will take advantage of your lack of knowledge.
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3. Be willing to compromise if necessary.
People often get so caught up in their desires that they forget how important it is to listen to and understand what their partners want as well.
If you want to make sure your relationship lasts as long as possible, then you need to be willing to compromise.
It may seem like a small thing, but this can mean everything in terms of the success of the relationship.
You both need to be on the same page about what each person wants in a relationship.
Just because one person doesn’t like something doesn’t mean it’s wrong or bad for the other person.
To have a successful relationship, both people have to compromise on some things.
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4. Be willing to change for the good of the relationship.
We all know how hard it is to change, but if you stay the same way that you are today, then your chances of keeping the relationship alive will be a lot thinner.
Some people are so set in their ways that they don’t know how to change their relationship for the good of the other person.
We all need to be willing to take a step back and look at what’s best for both people rather than just ourselves.
The other person may not be pleased with a change, but if it will help make the relationship last, then it’s worth making.
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5. Be more forgiving.
I know this is hard to believe.
But if you have been together for years and have a solid relationship, then it’s time to forgive whatever you can.
There will be plenty of things over which you may be upset and angry, but that doesn’t mean the relationship is bad or that there’s anything wrong with it.
Having a strong relationship will require us all to forgive each other our mistakes.
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6. Stay positive.
This is easy to do if you’re feeling upbeat, but it’s not always that easy when you’re on a downswing of emotions.
Staying positive will help keep your relationship healthy and alive, or it can hurt the other person’s feelings.
And if anything negative is said to the person you love, it can hurt their feelings and make them feel like they don’t have a chance in the world of staying with you.
Don’t ever let your partner feel that way.
When one person goes into a down-swing of their emotions, the other person should try to act positively to help them get out of it as soon as possible.
And when all else fails, just remember that humor will always be there to save the day.
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Well, this is a blog post based on opinion, not a piece of professional advice.
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