“I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me. I love you for the part of me that you bring out.” — Elizabeth Barrett Browning
I recall how uncomfortable my partner was the first time I told him I loved him. He looked like a deer caught in the headlights. Like it was great that I was feeling that way, but he had not processed his own emotions well enough to decide whether “like” had evolved to “love”.
When it comes to love, there are many ways to know we are in love and yet other times, the expression of our emotions eludes us.
Many people struggle to say ‘I love you’ to their partner because they are afraid of rejection. However, when you have been with someone long enough, it does help to be able to deduce whether they love you or not.
It helps to keep in mind that we often show signs of being in love long before we are consciously aware of our feelings. Our body language and behavior change when we are around the person we love, even if we don’t yet realize it.
For example, we might find ourselves mirroring their body language or talking to them more than usual. We might also start making more time for them in our schedule, even if it means sacrificing other activities that we enjoy.
All of these things indicate that we are slowly falling in love, even though it might be subtle in the beginning.
And the experiences of love are often shared by many people, regardless of individual differences.
Ultimately, love is a universal emotion that we all feel at some point in our lives.
How could someone be deeply in love and fail to express it verbally?
I admit rejection is a very real possibility when you declare your love for someone. I have been through the experience of unrequited love, and it is not a pleasant feeling. It is natural to want to avoid this pain by keeping our feelings to ourselves.
However, I believe that the fear of rejection should not prevent us from expressing our love for someone. If we never take the risk, we will never know what might have been.
And even if the other person does not return our feelings, at least we will have the satisfaction of knowing that we were brave enough to tell them how we feel.
There are undeniable telltale signs when you are deeply in love with someone.
We might all express it differently, or experience it more intensely than others, but the basic feeling is the same. This shared experience is one of the things that makes love so special and worth risking everything for.
Here are 7 innate signs that you are deeply in love
1. You can’t stop thinking about them
You know you’re deeply in love when you can’t stop thinking about the other person.
You think about them when you wake up in the morning, and you think about them before you go to bed at night. You think about them when you’re at work, and you think about them when you’re out with friends.
You can’t help but wonder what they’re doing, and you can’t help but hope that they’re thinking about you, too.
You may not always be together, but you’re always connected in your thoughts.
You know that your love is real, and it’s true, and it’s profound. You can’t imagine your life without them, and you wouldn’t want to.
You are deeply in love, and it’s the best feeling in the world. Embrace it, cherish it, and never let it go.
2. You always want to be around them
You know you are deeply in love when you always want to be around them. In a way, they have this irresistibility that keeps drawing you to them.
You feel a constant desire to be in their presence and can’t stand being apart. This is because being around the person you love makes you feel happy and complete.
You also find yourself constantly thinking about them when they’re not around. You may even daydream about being with them or imagine what your life would be like together.
You also find yourself wanting to do everything you can to make them happy.
When you’re in love, your partner’s happiness is just as important to you as your own. You deep love for them motivates you to always try to make them smile and feel loved.
You know that being with them is the best place to be, and no matter what else is going on in your life, being with them is always what you want.
3. You start exhibiting the same body language as them
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you catch yourself doing the same things as your partner? You might be mirroring their actions without even realizing it. This is an innate sign that you’re deeply in love with them.
It’s a subtle but powerful way to bond with someone and shows that you’re deeply connected. You might not even be aware that you’re doing it, but it’s a sign that you’re comfortable with each other and that you’re deeply in love.
According to psychology, when we’re attracted to someone, we tend to subconsciously imitate their behavior. This helps us to bond with them and feel closer to them. It’s also a way of showing that we’re interested in them and want to be like them. If you find yourself unconsciously copying your partner’s body language, it’s a good indication that you’re head over heels in love with them.
Another sign is that you frequently make eye contact. You might find yourself gazing into their eyes for long periods of time, or you might catch them looking at you when you’re not even looking at them.
You might find yourself touching them more frequently, whether it’s holding hands, stroking their hair, or just giving them a gentle touch on the arm. This is a way of showing your affection and wanting to be physically close to them.
You might also find yourself mimic their actions or their facial expressions. This is called attunement and it’s a sign that you’re tuned into their emotions and they’re tuned into yours.
Lastly, you might start finishing each other’s sentences or having the same thoughts at the same time. This is called convergent thinking and it’s a sign of deep love for each other.
4. You find yourself making more time for them in your schedule
You know you’re in love when you start making more time for them in your schedule.
You find yourself waking up earlier to spend more time with them, staying up later to talk to them, and rearranging your commitments just to have more time with them.
You might even start skipping out on social plans just so you can spend more time alone with them.
You know you’re in love when you can’t get enough of them and you’re always looking for ways to steal a few more minutes together. And that’s OK!
Because being deeply in love is one of the most magical experiences life has to offer.
So if you find yourself making more time for your partner, it’s a sure sign that you’re head over heels in love. Enjoy it!
5. You start talking to them more than usual
You know you’re in love when you start talking to them more than usual.
You can’t help but share every detail of your day with them, and even the little things that normally wouldn’t interest you somehow seem worth mentioning just because you know it would make them smile.
You find yourself wanting to know everything about them, from their favorite foods to their hopes and dreams for the future.
You also start to care deeply about their happiness and well-being, and you can’t imagine your life without them in it.
If you’re feeling all of these things, then it’s safe to say that you’re deeply in love.
Congratulations! You’ve found the person who brings joy and meaning into your life. Cherish them always.
6. Your behaviour changes when you are around them
When you’re in love, you can’t help but behave differently around the object of your affection.
You might find yourself acting more shy, or even more outgoing than usual. You might find yourself wanting to spend more time with them, or going out of your way to please them.
Whatever the case may be, your behaviour definitely changes when you’re around the person you love.
And that’s a good thing! After all, love is all about making a connection with someone, and changing your behaviour to make that happen is a positive sign that you’re deeply in love with them.
So if you find yourself acting differently around someone you’re attracted to, don’t be alarmed. It just means that love is in the air!
7. You feel a deep connection with them that goes beyond words
You know you’re deeply in love when you feel a deep connection with your partner that goes beyond words. You can just look at them and feel the love emanating from their very being.
You feel like you understand them on a soul level, and even though you may not always agree, you know that overall, you’re on the same team. You’re willing to sacrifice your own needs for theirs, and you would do anything to make them happy.
You’re proud of their accomplishments, and you cherish their presence in your life. You know that they are your perfect match, and you can’t imagine your life without them.
If this is how you feel about your partner, then congratulations! You’re deeply in love. Enjoy every moment and let the love flow through you!
Love is a risky proposition, but it is also one of the most rewarding experiences we can have in life.
And so, even though it might be scary, I think it is always worth taking the chance and telling someone that you love them.
An ultimate sign of being deeply in love is when you can’t imagine your life without the other person. You might find yourself thinking about them all the time, even when they’re not around. You might also start making plans for your future together. This is because you can’t imagine your life without them and you want to build a future together.
If you find yourself exhibiting any of these signs, it is a good indication that you are deeply in love with your partner.
And now your thoughts…
Please let me know your thoughts in the comments section.
Thank you for reading.
This post was previously published on MEDIUM.COM.
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