In an extrovert-centric culture, the natural attractiveness of introverted men often goes unnoticed. That said, when developed properly, the introvert’s charm is intoxicating.
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Think of James Bond for a moment. Quiet. Pensive. Confident. Mysterious.
Do you think he was more of an extrovert or introvert? Introvert, of course.
If Bond were to follow the common pick-up advice of today, he would have a lot of trouble attracting women. Can you imagine?
Tossing out jokes, making a loud and gregarious show, centering himself as the life of the party…. It feels a little off, doesn’t it? That’s because it’s just not him.
Instead, Bond is mysterious. Badass. Intriguing. Quietly confident. That combination is irresistible to women everywhere, apparently.
Do you have to be James Bond to have the same genre of charm he has? Not at all. As long as you’re an introvert, you can focus purely on bettering yourself in a way that feels good to you, and your nature will take care of the rest.
Here are seven reasons why you, as an introverted man, are naturally attractive:
1. You are mysterious.
You have a rich inner world, full of intriguing thoughts and feelings. Women who like you want to know what you’re thinking, but they can’t possibly know so easily. This sets up a playful, intense dynamic naturally.
2. You are easy to be around.
By nature, you are chill and relaxed. You’re not clamoring for attention, and you’re a great listener. These qualities make you pleasant and appealing.
3. You have a fresh perspective on the world.
Because you’re not into passing fads but are attuned to a deeper reality, the way you see the world is often surprising and wonderful to others. You have a fresh sense of humor and quirky playfulness.
4. Your introspection makes you a wonderful partner.
You have a habit of searching out where you’re going right and where you’re going wrong in life, so you can take responsibility and better yourself. When developed, this is incredibly earnest and trustworthy to a woman.
5. You are in tune with subtle chemistry nuances.
This is so sexy. Your quiet depth puts you in close touch with your body, her body, and the environment in a way that gives you a special edge. Sometimes, just the slightest glance can make a woman melt, and your intuitive nature means you are especially primed to do that well.
6. You are intellectually stimulating.
Intelligent women are energized by meaningful conversations with intelligent men. Because of your intellectually curious and exploratory nature, you know all kinds of different things to share with others.
7. You know yourself.
As an inwardly-oriented man, you know what you like and what you don’t like. You know your values, your preferences, and what you want in life. This makes you sophisticated and trustable.
Those are only seven reasons you are naturally attractive. There are many more about you specifically that you may not even know. For my clients, it is such a joy to learn themselves, to learn what is uniquely attractive about them.
I encourage you to go hunt for those naturally attractive qualities in yourself. Recall meaningful compliments. Reflect on your accomplishments. Try to see yourself in each of the seven facets above.
Then, go do whatever it takes to turn up the dial on your most attractive qualities so you can naturally attract extraordinary women and enjoy the hell out of the process.
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This is definitely true! I’m an introvert myself and I totally agree with this post
Jamey said it all.
Oh, dats cool Davis..
I agree wid that JAmey..
U know introverts are potential, they have solutions to many things but just keep it to demselves, being an introvert is very cool, d whole world may not recognize you but if u can step up a little extroverted works, keep to urself and u’ll have everything. And last, believe me, being an introvert, like wen u just sit quietly in d class and stayinq cool, u got d girls wondering wat genius u might be, its draws attention coz dey wanna knw more abt u….!
women love attention and like to laugh……never mind all the other stuff
This article is just too funny and wrong on so many levels. You want to bone James Bond, not an actual introverted IT guy with acne. Stop misusing terms like this.
Sincerely, 25 year old virgin, introvert. I’m not mysterious, I’m not self-knowledgeable and I’m not Daniel Craig with glasses.
Lol, sorry guys. You’re no more likely than an extroverted person to be “deep”, “intellectual”, “strong” or “confident”. Extroverted guys are no more likely to be into passing fads, lacking an inner life, or somehow magically less socially aware than you because they’re more gregarious.
I think this article might be lost on men under 30 years old. A young introvert is just shy, and is viewed that way by others. It takes decades of reflection and observation to gain the quiet confidence that women find attractive. So, hang in there, young bucks!
I am in my early 30s and believe you are right. My 20s were certainly a decade to gain inner depth. It has just been in the last few years I have felt the confidence to offer my quiet strength to the world.
That’s also good insight Joye. These characteristics work well for extroverts too. If you’re an over the top extrovert then that might be a little off putting, but I’ve found just being yourself is the overall best way of longer term success. Those who are a bit quiet need to push themselves more. Those who are not should tone it down a bit, but always be yourself and not who you think they think you should be. People see through that very quickly. Start with kindness to all around and that’s usually a first noticing that you are someone worth… Read more »
Joseph, are you confusing introverted with shy?
I believe all of these are true! But not all introverted guys are mysterious. Some are just quiet, but once they get talking they are not as mysterious. But the biggest problem with being an introverted guy, is you will have a lot harder time finding a date. The guys that are annoying and obnoxious, and have to be the center of attention might annoy some girls, but they attract just as many girls and therefore they don’t have to worry about finding a girl. Whereas the introverted guy might be observing, listening, shying away from large social gatherings, and… Read more »
Hi Joseph, Thank you for your thoughtful comment. In my experience working with introverted men, they can make *incredible* first impressions that their beautiful girlfriends talk about long after the initial meeting. I get regular emails from men telling me this. It really is all about building skill on the foundation of genuine, natural charm. Therefore, the first step is seeing what natural charm is already there. Then comes the next step of honing that charm through skill-building (social, approach, conversation, escalation, etc). Finally, there comes the much-welcomed flow and ease. That flow is what creates chemistry and spark. In… Read more »
She’s right Joseph! In a way I feel bad for extroverted guys. If they are looking for a serious relationship, it can be hard for them to prove that they have depth or stability. It’s fun to laugh and be entertained by those guys, but most girls don’t want to marry a jokester. The only thing introverted guys have to fear is their inner voice. The downside of being introverted (I am myself) is that your inner voice is the only one you hear because you spend so little time interacting with others. So it’s good to get out there… Read more »
why would they care about a serious relationship? they’re getting laid often and with variety. people bullshit too much.