The most important requirement for an amazingly positive experience-filled relationship life is someone who truly loves you. Nothing else can compensate for that deficiency. It is a vital requirement for a successful relationship life.
And, here is the thing:
One of the early signs that a lady truly loves you is when she has a crush on you before the relationship starts: She relates to you and does stuff for and with you differently from how she does with other guys.
It is a nonverbal way of saying “you own a special place in my heart.”
Why do I know so?
From experience.
When you occupy a special place in a lady’s heart, she will treat you uniquely.
She will tolerate your shortcomings, see nothing but handsomeness in your average looks, your voice will be the most romantic voice in the world, your little generosity appears huge to her.
In short, you don’t have to do much to please her.
Can I tell you this?
That’s one of the luckiest things that can happen to you.
You’ll enjoy peace and growth in your relationship with her. Even with less effort on your part.
My relationship has lasted beyond 15 months despite my lapses, deficiencies, and busy schedule for just one reason: I found someone who doesn’t just love me, but truly loves me.
That is the kind of relationship experience I desire for you. And so today, we shall be looking at 7 of the signs that a lady has a huge crush on you.
If you’re set, let’s begin.
1. She’s Comfortable Around You
This was one of the first things I noticed about my girlfriend even before we started dating.
She wasn’t the type who was free with guys. This follows an experience with a guy who nearly forced himself into her. From that day she started being insecure around guys. She wouldn’t go to a guy’s house alone even if they were friends.
But it was different with me.
As we got to know each other, she started coming around alone to see me. Sometimes she even sleeps off in my house.
Is she free around you?
Does she come around without fear that you’ll sexually harass her?
If yes, then it is a sign she has a huge crush on you.
2. She Tells You Her Secrets
Even if you’re not the only man in her life, she tells you stuff about her life that only her parents are aware of.
Sometimes, you’re the only person in the world with whom she has shared that information with.
In my experience, a lady will do that with someone she trusts. Someone she feels they can confide in.
Here is the truth: if a lady trust you with her secret even before she gets to know you deeply, then chances are high she possibly also has a crush on you.
3. She Giggles At All Your Jokes
If a girl has a crush on you, you won’t need to be a stand-up comedian to make her laugh. She’s all white teeth and a beautiful smile when she’s around you.
Is she laughing at all your jokes?
This is a big green sign of interest.
If a woman has a crush on you, all your jokes will be super funny to her — even the ones that are not.
Why?
If a lady has a crush on you it doesn’t take much to make her smile.
She smiles at how you pronounce some words and makes you pronounce them often. She giggles at your dance steps and wants to watch you dance. How your face looks when you get angry and might even tickle you just to see that look.
If a lady loves you, she will be all smiles and smiles around you.
Look out for these signs.
4. She Keeps Eye Contact Longer Than Normal
Do you know that it is only when someone is truly interested in what you are saying that they keep eye contact?
It is the case when a lady has a crush on you.
If she has a huge crush on you, one way to know is whether she pays attention when you talk. And the duration of the eye contact is an objective measure of how much she is interested in you.
Maintaining eye contact longer than a regular girl is a huge sign that what you are saying and you are important to her.
5. How She Feels When She Sees You Around Other Ladies
From experience, a lady can hide her feelings under some circumstances, but not when they see the guy they have a crush on around other ladies.
They feel uncomfortable with the situation. Their smiles fade slowly, their disposition changes. It is a sign of feeling threatened thinking that the other ladies are trying to steal her man even though you guys are yet to start dating.
If a lady assumes you’re her man and treats you ass such even before she says yes to you, it is a huge sign she has a huge crush on you.
6. Is She Mirroring You?
If you take a sip of your glass, she’ll also take a sip of her glass.
Another is, if you cross your left leg on top of the right and she crosses hers too, that’s also mirroring.
One of the things I noticed about my girlfriend before we started dating. She started using some of my default vocabularies. “That sounds like you, bro,” a guy said to me during a group discussion.
Mirroring is done subconsciously if she wants to impress you or bond with you. It’s a great sign she has a huge crush on you.
7. She Involves You In Her Plans
“Josh, are you aware of the latest restaurant in town? They started operating last week, and it is the biggest and the most beautiful place in this town! If you are free this week, I’d like us to hang out there. You’ll love it.”
“I will be traveling this week. Do you mind seeing me off to the park or airport?”
Does she discuss her plan with you without restriction?
This is also a huge sign.
Planning or mentioning things they want to do with you in the future is a very strong indication of some sort of interest, romantic or platonic.
If a lady does a couple of these, she has a huge crush on you. Don’t second guess whether to ask her out if you find her attractive. It is a good foundation for a relationship you will enjoy and last.
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To your success in relationships,
Cheers
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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