Are you worried about conflict and friction in your relationship?
Have you started asking yourself whether or not the relationship is worth it?
Stressful circumstances can make even the strongest and happiest of couples, second guess the relationship. No matter how much you might love someone, or how strong your desire to be with them is, there will still be times that might make you stop and consider whether or not your relationship can go the distance.
Here are seven definitive signs that can help you realize whether or not someone is worth fighting for.
1. They make you happy
When we find someone who makes us happy, we want to do everything that we can to keep this person in our lives.
Numerous studies have found that having close and meaningful relationships with the people around us is integral to a greater quality of life, and stronger feelings of overall contentment and satisfaction.
These kinds of special bonds with people are exhibited in friends or romantic partners who make you smile and feel good about yourself. These types of strong positive relationships can last a lifetime.
2. You can talk to them about anything
Honesty and openness are the foundation of loving and healthy relationships.
Do you truly feel like you can talk to your partner about anything from your deepest, darkest secrets to all your hopes and dreams?
If so, then it shows that there’s a deep sense of trust and understanding, and acceptance between the two of you. And that kind of connection is rare to find.
3. You love spending time with them
Do you enjoy spending time with your partner?
Do you look forward to seeing them and being around them even if you’re not planning on doing anything particularly fun or exciting?
If you answered yes, then it shows that what you have with this person is special, because you enjoy their company and you feel good about being around them.
You’re content with a Monday because as long as you are together you always have a good time. A relationship like this with your partner is easy, comfortable, and definitely worth holding on to.
4. You can be yourself around them
Another great reason why you should fight for someone is if they make you feel like you’re free to be yourself around them.
They accept you and love you just the way you are so you feel safe letting your guard down with them. They never make you feel like you’re not good enough or that you need to try hard to impress them or that you should change yourself just to please them.
They bring out the best in you and when you’re around them you have the freedom to be your truest, most authentic self.
5. You agree to disagree
Do you believe that couples should strive to have as little conflict as possible to keep their relationship strong?
Well, the truth is, constructive conflict is actually a good thing.
When you and your partner can agree to disagree about things, it shows that you’re both mature enough to handle your problems without resorting to fighting, name-calling, and passive-aggressive behaviors.
Agreeing to disagree shows that you prioritize your relationship over your desire to be right. It shows that you’re willing to set your pride aside for your partner and vice versa. You respect each other’s differences and value one another’s opinions which is a very good sign that you’re with the right person.
6. You share the same core values
Do you and your partner have different views and opinions on things?
That’s okay as long as you share the same core values. Core values are defined as the fundamental beliefs a person upholds, these are guiding principles that help dictate behavior and understanding of the difference between right and wrong.
If you invest in a relationship with someone whose values are not aligned with yours, it generally leads to increased disagreements, misunderstandings, and resentment over time.
However, if you and your partner believe in the same core values, then it’ll be easier to maintain a healthy relationship with them despite the challenges you might have to face together.
7. You help each other grow
Is your partner dependable and encouraging?
Do they boost your confidence and push you towards achieving your goals because of how much they believe in you?
Do they make you want to be a better person because of the wonderful example that they set for you?
A relationship where you help each other grow and change for the better is a relationship worth fighting for.
Finding a partner who not only loves and supports you but also challenges you, can help you become the best possible version of yourself. Falling in love and making a genuine healthy emotional connection with someone isn’t something that happens too often.
Do any of these signs make you realize that your relationship is actually worth fighting for?
This post was previously published on medium.com.
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