7 Texts That Make Them Want More With You

Here is a summary of the transcript from YouTube, slightly edited with AI.

Texts That Build Real Attraction

Have you ever sent someone a message and instantly regretted it—or worse, got silence back? In this video, I’m giving you seven texts that don’t just get a reply. They build real attraction and leave the other person thinking about you long after the conversation has ended—without even knowing why.

If you’re tired of ghosting, lukewarm responses, or endless dead-end conversations, you could be one message away from going from someone they “kind of like” to someone they cannot stop thinking about.

The texts I’m sharing are not generic. They are specifically designed to create tension, spark desire, and leave the other person wanting more of you. Because attraction isn’t just luck—it’s language. And the words you send over text can matter more than you think.

I’m also excited to see your reaction to text number five. The last time I shared it, it got a lot of people riled up—but they were wrong. The bottom line is, if you’ve ever wondered what to say to keep someone hooked, this is your video.

Competence in Creating Attraction

Over the last 10 years, my work has evolved into deeper conversations around healing, mental health, and transforming the patterns that keep us stuck in love and life. But as much as confidence in ourselves matters, so does competence in creating attraction.

Some of the texts I’m giving you today are new. Some are updated versions of my greatest hits. But all are taken from years of seeing what actually works in the real world.

And because this community is so beautifully diverse, you’ll see these texts delivered in different dynamics—straight couples, gay couples, masculine energy, feminine energy. Let’s dive in.

Text #1: The Date Set-Up

This text is great for initiating a date without being the one to actually plan it. Let’s say you’ve been having fun, flirty exchanges, but now you want them to actually ask you out instead of texting forever.

If they’ve been making you laugh, you say:
“Lol are you as funny in person as you are in text?”

They might reply:
“You’ll have to tell me.”

Then you respond:
“No problem, you tell me when.”

This message sets up the “meet in person” conversation in a natural and easygoing way, while still allowing them to be the one who sets the date. It’s a perfect example of how you can be proactive while also letting the other person take charge.

It builds attraction because you’ve created playful tension. You’ve positioned yourself as someone who expects to be pursued, but who also knows how to flirt.

Text #2: The Cheeky Follow-Up

This one is perfect for flirting after a date.

Instead of the standard, “Did you get home okay?” or “I hope you had fun tonight,” you send:
“I hope you managed to enjoy the rest of your night without me 😉.”

That word “managed” is what makes this fun. It’s playfully bold, as if to say, “Wasn’t your night clearly better when I was in it?”

This works in the daytime too:
“Hope you managed to enjoy the rest of your day without me.”

It’s self-assured, playfully cocky, and demonstrates confidence. It leaves them wanting more because it shows you assume you brought value to their night.

Too much sincerity too often can come across as overly earnest. Most of us want a good human with just a little bit of edge.

Text #3: The Desire Reaction

This one is great for when someone sends you a compliment. Instead of just saying, “Thanks, that’s sweet,” you say:
“Making me blush in public over here 😊.”

This leans toward feminine energy, but it works because it’s adorable, visual, and a little sexy. You’re painting a picture and letting them know their words have an effect on you.

This builds attraction because it’s not just, “I liked that you said that.” It gives them an experience. Adding “in public” creates playful tension, almost like a game where they want to make you blush even more.

“What Do I Say When . . . ?”

You might be thinking, “I love these texts, but what do I say the next time they text me something confusing?” Or, “What if I need help with the conversation I’m in right now?”

That’s why I created Matthew AI—it’s like having me in your pocket 24/7. You can ask it anything from “What does this message mean?” to “What should I say back?”

It gives you real-time, personalized advice based on everything I’ve taught over the last two decades. You can even try it free at askmh.com.

Text #4: The Cute Bid for Affection

This one is great when you want to show your adorable side.

After watching or listening to something a little scary, you send:
“My friend just made me watch Insidious. I need a cuddle.”

It’s sweet, affectionate, and makes the other person feel protective of you—without being too intense. It communicates: “You’re the one I want comfort from right now.”

For a more masculine twist, you could say:
“Just watched Insidious. Not ashamed to admit I could’ve used you to hide under the covers with.”

This works by igniting the protective instinct in the other person and letting them feel special for being the one you reached out to.

Text #5: The Reluctant Mind Take-Over

This one always stirs debate—but it’s one of my favorites.

After a second or third date, you text:

If you’re a guy: “I keep thinking about you and it’s annoying me 🙄.”
If you’re a woman: “I keep thinking about you and last night… it’s annoying 😏.”

It’s vulnerable and confident at the same time. Some people think it sounds rude, but that’s because they don’t know how to flirt.

Flirting isn’t about being literal all the time. It’s about play, spice, and not taking yourself too seriously. The emojis soften it and reveal your true meaning.

This message begs for a response because it shows they’ve gotten under your skin—and that kind of emotional friction is what builds attraction.

Text #6: The Hot Callback

This one combines compliments with desire language.

Instead of saying, “That was sweet,” you say:
“That was hot.”

For example:
“I just remembered when you opened the car door for me last night… that was hot.”

Or, if something funny and unexpected happens—like the time my wife beat me at GoldenEye in Japan—I could’ve texted:
“Just remembered when you beat me at GoldenEye last night… that was hot.”

It’s playful, specific, and charged. It makes the other person feel admired in a flirty way.

Text #7: The Confidence Smackdown

This one is perfect for when someone resurfaces after being a little flaky.

Imagine they text: “Thinking of you.”
Instead of melting and replying, “Aw, I’ve been thinking of you too,” you say:
“Well… obviously.”

It’s short, sweet, and resets the power dynamic. It shows you’re not sitting by your phone waiting, and that of course they’d be thinking of you—because you’re awesome.

This builds attraction because it signals confidence and self-respect.

Attraction Is Built in These Moments

These texts may seem small, but attraction is built in moments. Language matters. If you want more respect and investment in dating, how you communicate is everything.

And if you want to continue building both your confidence and competence in dating, try Matthew AI. It’s there when you need it, 24/7, to help you write messages, understand conversations, and feel clear, calm, and confident.

You can try it free at askmh.com.

If you’re already using it, let me know in the comments how it has helped you—I’d love to hear your stories.

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