
“Love is the beauty of the soul.” — St. Augustine
I had a fantastic time catching up with my friend Olga over the weekend. She is finally settled in a happy relationship and I love it for her.
Somehow, our conversations wandered toward love and relationships because she can’t seem to stop talking about her boyfriend, Larry. They recently celebrated their 2-year anniversary and she is ecstatic he is “The One”.
“I have had my fair challenge with relationships but my boyfriend and I have a genuine soul connection. He is different from anyone else I’ve ever dated and we just “get” each other in a way that is difficult to explain.
When we met, it was like we had known each other for years, even though we had just met. We connected on a deep level and it was as if our souls recognized each other.”
Aaaaaw! Did I mention I am ecstatic for her? I am!
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There is a lot of talk about soulmates and true love, but what is a soul connection? How can you tell if you have one with someone?
“A soul connection is someone who stirs your soul when you meet them, like a kindred spirit. There is an intensely deep connection that seems to supersede linear time. When you meet this person, you feel like you’ve known each other before.” — Nicole Moore
What is a soul connection?
When we talk about soul connections, we’re talking about a deep and innate connection that goes beyond the physical. It’s a connection that is brought about by a shared sense of purpose, values, and beliefs.
The term soul connection stemmed from the belief that we all have a soul, and that we are connected to one another through this soul.
The idea is that we are all connected at a much deeper level than what we can see on the surface.
According to a research study on soul connections conducted by the University of Chicago, soul connections are “the most intensely close relationships we form in our lifetime.”
These are the relationships where we feel a deep sense of intimacy, love, and connection. The researchers found that soul connections are not only incredibly rare, but the impact that they have on our lives is profound.
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If you’re wondering what a soul connection is, or how to tell if you have one with someone, read on for 9 habits you can adopt that can help improve your soul connection with your partner.
Here are 9 Daily Habits Of Happy Couples With A Strong Soul Connection
1. They spend time together doing things they both enjoy
“Having a good time together is the essence of lovingness and the best means of increasing it.” — Benjamin Spock
Happy couples with a strong soul connection spend time together doing things they both enjoy.
According to Dr. Carmen Harra, one of the best ways to improve your soul connection with your partner is to spend time together doing things you both enjoy.
When two people make the effort to get to know each other, it is important to also find out what makes the other person tick. What do they enjoy the most? It will make spending enjoyable time together effortless.
This can be anything from going for walks, to watching movies, to working on a project together.
The important thing is that you’re both enjoying yourselves and spending time together.
How you can adopt this, in a nutshell:
Spend time with your partner doing things you both enjoy.
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2. They are open and honest with each other
“No legacy is so rich as honesty.” — William Shakespeare
Happy couples with a strong soul connection practice openness and honesty with each other to build their relationship on a strong foundation of love.
So, another way to improve your soul connection with your partner is to be open and honest with each other.
According to love therapist, Margaret Paul, soul connections are built on a foundation of trust.
If you want to soul connection with your partner to be strong, you need to be able to trust them.
This means being open and honest with each other about your thoughts, feelings, and needs. It is important that you feel like you can share anything with your partner without judgment or criticism.
This type of openness creates a deep level of trust and intimacy between you and your partner.
How you can adopt this, in a nutshell:
Be open and honest with your partner.
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3. They communicate openly and frequently
“Communication to a relationship is like oxygen to life — without it…it dies.” — Ashley Southard
Happy couples with a strong soul connection communicate effectively and frequently.
Communication is a key element of a strong soul connection. It is important that you and your partner are able to communicate effectively and frequently.
According to psychologist John Gottman, soul connections are built on a foundation of communication.
If you want to improve your soul connection with your partner, make sure to communicate effectively and frequently.
How you can adopt this, in a nutshell:
Communicate effectively and frequently with your partner.
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4. They listen to each other
“Words are the voice of the heart.” — Confucius
There is a difference between listening to respond and listening to understand. My friend, Olga, shared that Larry is a great listener and really hears what she has to say.
Listening is just as important as communication when it comes to soul connections.
In order to truly connect with your partner on a soul level, you need to be able to listen to them. This means being present and fully engaged in the conversation.
According to relationship expert, Susan Heitler, soul connections are built on a foundation of mutual respect. Mutual respect is important in relationships because it allows both partners to feel valued and heard.
How you can adopt this, in a nutshell:
Listen to each other. If you want to improve your soul connection with your partner, make sure to really listen to them when they are talking, and show them that you respect their thoughts and feelings.
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5. They respect each other’s needs and boundaries
“Lack of boundaries invites lack of respect.” — Anonymous
Another important element of soul connections is respect.
In order to have a healthy and strong soul connection, you need to respect each other’s needs and boundaries.
This means that you need to be able to take care of yourself emotionally and physically, and you also need to be able to give your partner the space they need to do the same.
If you’re not sure how to respect your partner’s needs and boundaries, Dr. Harra recommends that you “ask them what they need and then follow through.”
How you can adopt this, in a nutshell:
Respect your partner’s needs and boundaries. And also, respect your own boundaries when they are set and teach your partner how to respect them.
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6. They are supportive of each other
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” — Lao-Tzu
Just like Olga and Larry, happy couples with strong soul connections support each other. Being supportive of each other is another important aspect of creating strong soul connections.
This means being there for each other during both the good times and the bad. It’s important to be able to celebrate your partner’s successes with them and to be there for them when they’re going through a tough time.
According to a study by the University of California, soul connections are built on a foundation of mutual support.
How you can adopt this, in a nutshell:
Be supportive of your partner. If you want to improve your soul connection with your partner, make sure to be supportive of them both emotionally and physically.
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7. They spend time apart
“The time we spend apart is the time I spend realizing how much I love you.” — Unknown
Although it may seem counterintuitive, spending time apart can actually help improve your soul connection with your partner.
Happy couples with a strong soul connection know that everybody needs a little time away from each other so they can appreciate their partner better.
It’s important to spend time together if you want to improve your soul connection, but it’s also important to spend time apart.
This is because soul connections are built on a foundation of independence.
According to psychotherapist Nicole Zangara, soul connections are built on a foundation of “interdependence.”
Interdependence is when two people are able to maintain their own independence while also being supportive of each other.
It is important that you’re able to have your own hobbies, friends, and interests outside of your relationship. This doesn’t mean that you don’t love or care about your partner, it just means that you’re able to have a healthy sense of independence.
Soul connections are deep and meaningful connections that are built on trust, communication, respect, and support.
How you can adopt this, in a nutshell:
If you want to improve your soul connection with your partner, make sure to spend some time apart so you can focus on maintaining your own independence.
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8. They connect on a deeper level by sharing their thoughts and dreams
“You have to dream before your dreams can come true.” — Abdul Kalam
Another way to improve your soul connection with your partner is by sharing your thoughts and dreams with them.
This means being open and honest about what you’re thinking and feeling, and sharing your hopes and dreams for the future.
According to relationship expert Margarita Tartakovsky, soul connections are built on a foundation of intimacy.
Intimacy is when two people are able to share their thoughts and feelings with each other without judgment.
How you can adopt this, in a nutshell:
If you want to improve your soul connection with your partner, make sure to be open and honest with them about your thoughts and feelings. Connect on a deeper level by sharing your thoughts and dreams, and learning about theirs.
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9. They appreciate the small things that make their partner special
“Love is in the details.”
One final way to improve your soul connection with your partner is by appreciating the small things that make them special.
This means taking the time to notice and appreciate the little things that they do, instead of taking them for granted.
It’s easy to forget about the small things that make our partners special, but it is these small things that can make a big difference in our soul connections.
According to relationship expert Tina B. Tessina, soul connections are built on a foundation of appreciation.
If you want to improve your soul connection with your partner, make sure to take the time to appreciate the small things that they do.
How you can adopt this, in a nutshell:
Appreciate the small things that make your partner special. In this way, you will be able to love and accept each other unconditionally.
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Final Thoughts
In conclusion, a soul connection is a deep and meaningful connection that is built on trust, communication, respect, and support.
If you want to improve your soul connection with your partner, make sure to spend time together, communicate openly and honestly, respect each other’s independence, and appreciate the small things that make them special.
And Now Your Thoughts…
What do you think is the most important thing for improving soul connections? Let me know in the comments section, please.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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