A Man Doesn’t Love You, but Still Wants to Marry You. He May Have These Three Thoughts

Marriage can be sacred and romantic. Men and women who have experienced the test of love and entered into marriage are a kind of emotional sublimation.

But not every marriage has love. Some men don’t love you, but still want to marry you. It may be because they have one (or sometimes all) of these three thoughts.

01 Looking for someone to take care of

Being a man, heck being a human on this earth, can be very tiring. You have to support yourself and others, and often it’s a struggle.

Therefore, when some men choose a marriage partner, what they think about is not whether they love each other or whether they can get along together; it is about whether they can save twenty or thirty years of struggle when they are with this woman.

Once he finds this kind of woman, he will do everything in his power to cling onto this woman.

You may tolerate everything, even anger and indifference; if you are wronged, he can show up in time and stay by your side no matter how late it is.

Some women will say that the one who really loves me does the same, and that’s right. But the difference is that when you really make a mistake or hurt someone, the person who loves you will definitely tell you in order to correct you and avoid doing it again next time.

A true partner understands that no matter how good people are, they are not perfect. The meaning of being together is to tolerate each other and grow together.

Not so with men who just want to be your parasite.

No matter how many mistakes you made, in his mouth, it was all caused by others, or he was thinking of finding various objective reasons to excuse you.

It’s really comfortable at first to be with someone like that. It was not until after you got married that you found out that he was a leech that sucked blood on you, choosing to stick to you just to squeeze your value clean.

02 Make marriage a life task

Some men also have a strong sense of urgency towards marriage.

After chatting a few words on the phone, and seeing your emoji, he feels you are interested in him; when you have a meal with him, he feel that you have accepted him, and he wants to hold your hand when you go out.

After he gets engaged and married to you; all his enthusiasm for you may disappear when his wish is fulfilled.

For such people, marriage is just a personal life task. Marrying you is the same as marrying someone else.

The purpose is not to be gossiped by others, to be single at an old age, etc. As for whether you love or not, it doesn’t matter, anyway, he can leave if he can’t make it through.

A person who truly loves you and cherishes you will not establish a relationship with you too quickly.

Two people spend time chatting, looking for each other’s hobbies, eating more meals, getting to know each other’s tastes, spending time with each other, getting familiar with each other’s living habits, getting to know each other slowly, gradually getting closer, and then confirming the relationship.

03 He just wants to belittle you

What some men are most obsessed with is that men are strong and women are weak, treating women as private property and disposing of them arbitrarily.

Even with the development of society today, some men are still obsessed with this feeling.

In a relationship, what they are best at is quietly suppressing you.

You see a new dress and ask him if it looks good; he laughs at you for pretending to be a little girl at your age.

You think there is not much room for promotion, and you plan to read books to learn other skills, he swears and asks if you want tp abandon him after a promotion and a salary increase.

With this kind of man, you always have to coax him, follow him, and maintain his poor self-esteem. Once you work harder than him, he will be unhappy immediately.

People who are really good for you will argue with you, but they will NEVER take oppression and devaluation as a way to love you.

If you make a mistake, he will speak out and correct it with you; if you have the opportunity to grow, he will praise you without hesitation and encourage you to grow.

Marriage is not a compulsory course for either women or men, and there is no suitable person to be in a hurry.

Live according to your own pace, how you feel comfortable; people who like you just try to get along, don’t force love for a lifetime, just get along comfortably.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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